The unmarked holiday…

Invent a holiday! Explain how and why everyone should celebrate.

How strange, this modern habit of carving life into segments. A day for mothers, for fathers, for yoga. And a day to celebrate! As if the other three hundred and sixty-four hold no space for such things.

Our calendar has become a factory ledger, the years measured in output, not presence. We are allotted: work from this hour to that, with a weekly holiday to catch our breath.

But what if our holiday wasn’t a date circled in red? What if it was a daily ritual?

An hour, each afternoon. Screens go dark. The world grows quiet. We nap, we walk, we simply sit. We remember how to be.

This is not idleness. It is fertile ground. The soil from which compassion, clarity, and creativity grow.

The 9-5 is a relic of industry, a blueprint for machines. We are not machines.

The most essential holiday was never invented. It has always been here, waiting in the space between one breath and the next.

Three Birthdays and a Remembrance: The Ensō Circles of November

Three Birthdays and a Remembrance: The Ensō Circles of November

2 November. Today is Nithya Chaithanya Yati’s birthday. A long time back, when I started reading Malayalam newspapers, one of the must-reads was his articles—mostly about day-to-day life and challenges. Later in high school, my grand uncle, a National Award–winning teacher, used to talk about him as well as Krishnamurti. Gopala thatha was considered an atheist by many of my relatives. But he was quite spiritual, just not religious. Much before I started seeing Nithya as a spiritual guru, I read him as someone who wrote Malayalam prose really well. Like another spiritual master, Eknath Easwaran’s English.

In my collection, after Krishnamurti’s books, the most number of books I have are by Nithya and Eknath Easwaran. While Easwaran’s spiritual life was almost like that of JK and UG, Nithya belonged to the illustrious lineage of Śrī Narayana Guru—the great Advaita teacher and social reformer from Kerala. Nithya’s guru, Nataraja Guru, was Narayana Guru’s disciple. Nataraja Guru, after a PhD from Sorbonne and teaching in Switzerland, returned and accepted sanyasa. Nithya, after being a monk, went on to do a PhD from TISS and taught in many universities such as Stanford. He also headed ICMR’s yoga division.

Though I was not fortunate to meet them in person, they were all great influences on me—connected through their writing. And another connection: I share my birthday with Nithya Chaithanya Yati, 2 November.

I missed that with my late father Sankara, whose birthday was on 3 November. He passed away on 20 November. So November is a bittersweet month. Like that movie Four Weddings and a Funeral, for me it is “three birthdays and a remembrance (śraddhāñjali) day.”

Like that classic movie Four Weddings and a Funeral. It was such a wonderful comedy and a must watch… especially for that eulogy Matthew delivers during the funeral service of Gareth. That W.H. Auden poem— “Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone…” And the best in my view: “He was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest.” Maybe someone would rephrase it for me at my memorial in the Zendo: “My resting week and my Sunday work.”

When my father left, I did not cry for a very long time. The tears came much later, one evening as I sat alone on the KAUST beach. With that, my grief cycle turned in full, like the arc described by Kübler‑Ross. Perhaps it turned so full that, later that year, when my mother called to ask if I had done puja on 20 November, I realized I had forgotten the śraddhāñjali day. And after so many years, I see that this forgetting is itself the best śraddhāñjali one can offer to the dear and near—that we forget they are no more, because in truth they are still here, in another form, formless.

I even hope to breathe my last on a 1 November, so that after I am dusted and gone, joyful memories would come up for my dear and near ones after the sad ones—if at all someone cares to remember.

And it is always good to get reincarnated, even in our imagination, like Jesus—though I was not crucified by life in general. After all, don’t we wake up to life after a deep death every single night.

Many religions and concepts of God arose from humanity’s fear of death and the anxiety of being mortal. Some religions and spiritual paths teach that real life begins only after this life, after our death—the very word moksha points to that. But Zen looks at it differently. For Zen, this life is the only life that matters. Samsara is Nirvana.

Fr. AMA often reminds us that life is precious, and any other thought is without true understanding. One begins to live only when one accepts death fully. Only when we accept our mortality and fragility do we become truly immortal. There is no day without night. And if there were an endless day without night in between, would we really value that day at all?

Many years ago, when I joined a Stoic Week program organized by the University of Exeter, there were two important meditations: one to recognize our insignificance in the vast universe as individuals, and the other to face death directly. A few months ago, Fr. AMA too spoke of the Jesuit meditation practice of meeting one’s own death. All these are preparations to face death. And in a way, there can be no better preparation for death than this: to live one’s day-to-day and moment-to-moment life with full presence.

I don’t remember celebrating my birthdays during my growing-up years. One reason was obviously economic—my parents just struggled to take care of the essentials in my and my siblings’ life. And the second reason is that, usually in Kerala, birthdays are celebrated as per the Malayalam calendar. So it kind of complicates things.

The first such celebration was in engineering college hostel, when my friends—the Dagar gang—came up with an impromptu birthday celebration and gifted me a book: Lee Iacocca’s autobiography.

And this time, it is the first birthday in the Zendo. So kind of being reborn.Feel like the first birthday. And like that, life comes in circles… not straight lines. What I missed in childhood, comes back now in another form. Not with cake or candles, but with silence, chanting, and friends on the path. Feels like the day itself is saying—be born again, again and again.

Zen teaches that life and death are not two separate realities, but one continuous unfolding. Yet at the Zendo we still celebrate birthdays, and we also gather in prayer for departed Sangha members. To lean only on the side of the infinite, ignoring the world of form, would be foolishness. We live in this phenomenal world, where grief must be endured and cannot be bypassed. However much one reframes, body pain, loss, hurt—all are truly sorrowful. And just the same, moments we cherish and enjoy bring real joy, laughter, and happiness. To deny either sorrow or joy would make life sterile and empty. To embrace both is to live fully.

Like Kübler‑Ross’s grief cycle, everything else in this universe too has its own life cycle. It is circular in nature. A recognition that the path is not straight, but it is whole. That every loss is woven into the fabric of a larger gain, and every ending is, in some form, a very quiet and gentle beginning.

And perhaps the best wordless way this truth is represented is in the Zen ensō—the circle drawn in a single breath, open or closed, complete yet unfinished.

Yesterday evening, Fr. AMA reminded us of this truth in the most ordinary way: he said today morning we will go   to the cemetery for Alosanai’s remembrance — she, the first staff of Bodhi Zendo, who lived Zen without ever needing to sit in meditation. Today evening 630 pm we will gather again for a memorial service to all departed Sangha members. And i plan to include Nithya and my late father Sankara too to that. And in between, he is taking me  for a birthday lunch. Life and death, grief and joy, silence and laughter — all folded into one circle

The most historical moment : my own arrival ..

What historical event fascinates you the most?

What Historical Moment Fascinates Me the Most?
When faced with such a question, our minds instinctively scroll through history books, searching for the great events and the great lives of others. We discount ourselves, as if our own existence does not count.

For me, even at the risk of sounding a little narcissistic, the most historical moment is the moment I was born into this world.

It was a long time ago, on a November evening, in a place called Mannarkkad—a name that literally means Earth + River + Forest. That name itself feels like a blessing, as if the elements conspired to welcome me.

There is, after all, a single unbroken thread that connects “me” to the most ancient human couple in Ethiopia. Across millennia, countless fortunate events had to align for me to emerge as this particular presence in the world.

And what a world it is—so lovely, so improbable, so alive. This life too, with all its paradoxes, is a gift. And yes, to some extent, me too.

So what other historical event, for me personally, could ever take precedence over this?

And yet, this is not just about me. Each of us carries such a thread—woven through ancestors, landscapes, languages, and forgotten struggles. Each birth is a convergence of histories, a quiet miracle that rarely makes it into the textbooks.

Perhaps the fascination, then, is not only with the moment of my own arrival, but with the recognition that every arrival is historical. Every cry of a newborn is the sound of history continuing, reshaping itself in flesh and breath.

So I leave this not as a conclusion, but as an invitation—may you pause, too, and remember the wonder of your own first evening on this earth.

Seeds of Potential and Hindrances to Blooming: The Gardener’s First Task

Seeds of Potential and Hindrances to Blooming: The Gardener’s First Task

Currently, I have only one coaching client—a new CEO of a mid‑tier company. Perhaps that is shaped by my environment. After all the chores and the attending at the Zendo, that is the limit of my time and energy. Of course, I could do with some more income for the Zendo, but this universe comes with a stable quantity of time and energy at any point in our life.

We talk every Wednesday. And most often, I end up writing a coaching note on Thursday early morning—maybe word‑smithed by the unconscious. This one, I thought, is generic enough to share with all. And my coaching client too said, “Okay.” So here we go…

Every being comes into this world with some potential. For many, that potential is already aligned with a purpose chosen by Nature. A bird does not wonder whether to sing. A jasmine does not debate whether to bloom. A banyan scatters a million seeds, knowing only a few will take root. That is not failure—it is design. This effortless alignment with design becomes the backdrop against which the human struggle stands out.

For humans, it is different. We are not handed a fixed script. We must discover our purpose, match it with our potential, and then find or create the right environment. Freedom is our gift, but also our burden. Many end their lives without blooming, not because the seed was absent, but because the conditions never came together.

This is not a personal failing. It is the very condition of being human—that unlike the jasmine, we must discover, match, and create. Leaders, too, are not broken when they struggle; they are simply facing the core task of their role.

The Buddha spoke of five hindrances—craving, ill will, sloth, restlessness, and doubt. These are not just inner obstacles; they echo in the organizations we create. Restlessness may look like constant chasing of fads. Doubt may paralyze decision‑making. Sloth may appear as resistance to change. Ill will can poison culture and trust. Craving can drive short‑termism at the cost of deeper purpose. Naming the weed is the first and most critical step.

A new leader is like a gardener. The work is not about being the hero or the smartest person in the room, but about cultivating conditions for growth. The gardener’s first task is to see the seed—the potential hidden in people, in the organization itself. Then to name the weeds—the hindrances that choke growth. Then to clear the ground—removing what suffocates. And finally, to enrich the soil—bringing in new skills, new learnings, new technologies, while protecting the space from storms of distraction.

The banyan does not lament the seeds that do not sprout. Its abundance is its wisdom. For us, the real tragedy is not that every potential is not fulfilled, but that awareness is not cultivated. The leader’s task is not to force every seed to bloom—that is a recipe for exhaustion—but to cultivate the awareness and conditions that allow blooming to happen naturally.

When awareness meets potential, blooming is inevitable.

We may not control every outcome, but we absolutely can cultivate the awareness to see what is true. In that clear‑seeing, the path to blooming naturally reveals itself, for ourselves and for the organizations we lead.

Zendo Chronicle: The Moth, the Clay, and the Website

Zendo Chronicle: The Moth, the Clay, and the Website

It all started with an advert — an amateurish poster in the notice board of the cafeteria.  23 February 2009. I was attending a year-long General Management program at IIMB, a gift from the company I was working for. The campus was just a two‑minute drive from where I lived, and the schedule meant a three‑day weekend — a boon from the divine. One afternoon in the cafeteria, I noticed a small, innocuous poster announcing an evening program on Kabir. “Kabira khada bazar mein,” it read. My classmate from Varanasi nudged me: “Let’s go.” And that was the start.

It was a documentary film show followed by a panel discussion and Q&A with Shabnam Virmani, who was the director of the documentary as well as Kabir project Koi Sunta Hai?. Till then, I did hear a few of Kabir’s Dohas… Swami Sukhabodhananda, whose program YLP (Yogic Linguistic Programming) I attended. And then my friend from Varanasi had a penchant of coming with a good Doha time to time. That is how I ended up in the Koi Sunta Hai — a 3-day Kabir Festival at Sophia School, Palace Road.

It was superb… Prahlad Tipaniya, Farid Ayaz and all the most notable Kabir and Sufi singers. It was just magical… Two nuggets stayed with me since then:

  • A small story shared by Farid Ayaz about flies and moths. Flies got into a competition with moths in search of light it seems. And both of them went in search of light. The flies returned to tell the King to announce about their discovery, while the moths never came back — for they had merged with the light itself. In the same way, people who show off their bhakti only return with pride and eager to display. But the one who truly finds the light, becomes light and never comes back to prove anything or teach anyone.
  • And the Doha:
    ‘Maati kahe kumhaar ko, tu kya roonde mohi,
    ik din aisa hoyiga, main roondoongi tohi.’
    The earth says to the potter, oh, how you knead me! One day, I will return the favour…

What strikes me is how both images point to the same thing: the futility of pride. Whether it’s the fly boasting of its discovery or the potter pressing down on clay, time and truth have a way of turning the tables. The moth and the clay don’t stand apart with their pride and ego — they merge with light and earth, and in that they reveal the real teaching.

The flies return to announce their discovery (nowadays in LinkedIn or SM), while the moths never return because they’ve become the light itself. It’s the difference between speaking about truth and dissolving into truth. Between Spirituality as performance and Spirituality as disappearance.

A few years back, when I was the lone one at the Zendo and had to take care of all the roles, I said to Fr. AMA, why not have a website etc. Why be the best kept secret in the world? And he said, even Buddha had only 10 core disciples and Jesus had 12 and one of them was Judas… So don’t worry about it. Those who want to come will come.

“Those who want to come will come.” In a way it was rejecting the anxiety of marketing spirituality. It trusts that the light itself will attract those who are ready to become it, not just those who want to hear about it. We don’t run towards the wheel of time… It rolls towards us. Like the Sun.

And later, I did take time off from my work at Wipro, learnt to create a website and did end creating a simple, rudimentary website. And I did share with him before announcing. He just spent a minute looking at it and just shook his head. And then just maybe to ensure not to leave me despondent, said to me, it does look a bit Zen-like. Simple. 🙂

And his minute of looking and head-shake wasn’t a rejection of my effort. It was a silent sermon. It was the potter looking at the clay that has momentarily forgotten it is clay. It was a gentle, wordless reminder: “This — the website, the announcement, the identity of being the one who ‘spreads the word’ — is also something to be kneaded. Don’t get attached to it.”

The moths never return, the clay never boasts. The light and the earth do their work without announcement. What does it mean, in our own lives, to dissolve rather than display? To trust that those who are meant to come, will come — drawn not by our effort to advertise, but by the quiet radiance of the light itself?

As Piyush Pandey would have said, “some advertisements are made not to sell.” What is it, then, that shines without selling, calls without calling? Maybe the moths and the clay knew this long before Ogilvy did.

Perhaps that is why Kabir stands in the bazaar, and the Zen master returns to the marketplace. The light does not need to announce itself — it simply shines.

Living tributes to remarkable lives : Lighting the incense now

Living tributes to remarkable lives : Lighting the incense now

In 1986, when Doordarshan first arrived in Mannarkkad, the television was not a possession but a commons. A single set in a neighbour’s house became the village square. We gathered for the Mexico World Cup, for Sunday morning serials, for Chitrahaar. The glow of the screen was less about technology than about togetherness.

Some songs and images from those days remain etched like stone inscriptions. Mile Sur Mera Tumhara—a melody of national integration, sung in many tongues—was not just a broadcast, but a vision of belonging. Later, Piyush Pandey’s creations—the Hutch pug, the Fevicol bus—entered our folklore in the same way. They were not merely advertisements; they were shared jokes, shared tenderness, shared recognition.

When Pandey passed away, the tributes poured in. Ogilvy’s full-page homage in The Times of India was unlike anything we had seen before. And yet, a question lingers: why do we wait until death to say what we truly feel? Would not the living heart have been gladdened by those words while it still beat?

I remember in 1998, when Wipro became the first company in the world to achieve SEI CMM Level 5, they printed the names of all employees in the Economic Times. For me, it was the first time my name appeared in print. Recognition in life, not as epitaph, but as celebration. How much it mattered.

Of course, there are a few who are fortunate in this regard. Some lives are bathed in recognition while still unfolding. Sports stars like Pele, Maradona, and Sócrates were not only admired but serenaded in their lifetimes—Pele hailed as “The King”, Maradona as “El Pibe de Oro”, Sócrates as the footballer-philosopher who stood for democracy as much as for the game. Writers like O.V. Vijayan and Kamala Das received living recognition through reviews and cultural debates. Scientists like Einstein and Richard Feynman became beloved public figures, their wit and humanity as cherished as their discoveries—Feynman even laughed at reading his own obituary while alive. And sages too: George Bernard Shaw once called Krishnamurti “the most beautiful human being he had ever seen”; Kahlil Gibran, upon meeting him, whispered, “Surely the Lord of Love has come”; Aldous Huxley introduced him to the world with reverence in The First and Last Freedom. These were tributes spoken in life, not carved in stone after.

But alongside these celebrated ones are the countless unheralded—the teachers who shaped generations without ever being quoted, the neighbors who quietly held communities together, the elders whose wisdom never reached print, the Sangha members who sit in silence and sustain the field of practice. Their names may never appear in newspapers, their faces never on television, yet their impact is no less real. They are the hidden roots of the tree, nourishing unseen.

On 12 July 2009, when a dear one passed away untimely, I wrote in my blog Sunday Sambar under the title Lasting Impressions of Some Remarkable Liveshttps://sundaysambar.blogspot.com/2009/07/lasting-impressions-of-some-remarkable.html

“Having crossed so many tragic moments lately, it just seemed odd that this one would make any difference. But still I couldn’t quite put my finger on why it felt different. Maybe only, when someone known to you goes back to Mother Earth as basic elements, we steal some precious moments to step back and think what life means to us and more importantly what matters to us. Then it struck me that it was the people, who live still in my mind long after they are gone from here. It had nothing to do with the environment. They weren’t many. I could count within my hands… They weren’t famous people in that sense of the word. When some of them died, only near and dear knew, wept and prayed for their souls… Nevertheless they were really remarkable people, who led remarkable lives. At least for you.”

But when I look back, I wish I had sent those notes while they were still in flesh and bones, alive and kicking.

It is a socially accepted practice never to badmouth the departed. We are careful not to speak ill of the dead, yet we hesitate to speak well of the living. But there is no written or unwritten practice that says we should not share with the remarkable people in our lives our living tribute — while they are still here to hear it.

So I wonder:

What would it mean if we practiced “living tributes”?
What if we wrote letters of gratitude not after funerals, but on ordinary Tuesdays?

No one really knows where we go after our lives here. People write of heavens where the departed crack jokes, or of philosophers teaching God himself. But what happens after we die is still hypothesis, no matter how finely written in holy books. What is real is this: this very land is lotus land, this very body is Buddha.

Perhaps this is the Dharma of enoughness: to speak the word of thanks now, to bow while the other can still meet our eyes, to let affection and recognition breathe in the present. Impermanence is not only loss; it is also the urgency to love without delay.

The unspoken word is like incense unlit. Let us light it while we can.

Whom do you want to write a living tribute today? Maybe they are not as famous as the names above, but remarkable all the same — at the very least, for you.

Those paths will find you…

What alternative career paths have you considered or are interested in?

When the paths you chose turn into a burden, the ones you never sought will come looking for you—and claim you. Keep your heartmind (kokoro) open, so you can recognize them when they knock at the door of your heart.

Stepping Off  the Prison Wheel: Living Without Gradations

Stepping Off  the Prison Wheel: Living Without Gradations

“How big is the top of Mount Everest?”
“About the size of a small kitchen table,” he responded.
“That is amazing,” I said, “You know, when you cross the Sahara Desert, there is no way of knowing where the desert ends. There is no peak, no border, no sign that says, ‘You are Now leaving the Sahara Desert – Have a nice Day!’
— From Steve Donahue’s Shifting Sands

Not only do metaphors run our life, but we also reveal our minds through the metaphors we use in day‑to‑day communication. Metaphors can liberate us and imprison us at the same time. As a child pilgrim to Sabarimala, and later through books like Eknath Easwaran’s Climbing the Blue Mountain and Jon Krakauer’s Into Thin Air, mountains became etched in my imagination as metaphors of summit — spiritual or human endeavor.

All of it changed in a moment.

Almost twelve years ago, I landed at Lekhwair airport on the edge of the Empty Quarter — Rub’ al Khali, a sand desert of 650,000 square kilometers. One evening, under a full moon, we drove out near the borders of Saudi Arabia, UAE, and Oman. The jeep stopped, and we stepped into the vastness. The reddish‑orange dunes glistened in moonlight, the horizon shimmered with mixed colors, the sky was alive with shy stars and a brazen full moon. In that silence, the universe stood still. We dissolved into it. That moment rewrote my metaphors: from mountains and summits to deserts and horizons.

The desert taught me what the wheel could not. What works on Everest is useless in the Sahara. In the desert, you follow a compass, not a map. You lower your gaze, because the horizon never gets closer. You stop pushing, and instead deflate your ego. You learn when to duck. These lessons from Shifting Sands became my compass for transformation—whether with my children, my coachees, my colleagues, or my Sangha.

And yet, the wheel still beckons. The self‑help world offers diagrams: concentric wheels with spokes radiating from the center. Each spoke is given a name—career, wealth, health, family, spirituality, leisure—each one a promise of fulfillment if only we can keep it strong. And then come the circles, one after another, like ripples spreading outward in time. The first circle might be +5 years, the next +10, then +20, until the wheel stretches all the way to the imagined horizon of our life. At every point where a spoke meets a circle, we are asked to write down a goal: what we will achieve in our career by 40, what wealth we will accumulate by 50, what family milestones we will reach by 60. The wheel becomes a calendar of ambition, a map of decades yet to come. It looks neat on paper, almost scientific in its symmetry, as if happiness could be engineered by filling in the blanks.

But here is the deeper question: while some of these goals—being healthy, nurturing relationships, continuing to learn—are valid, do they really merit gradations? Why postpone them into the future instead of bringing them into the present moment? Health is not a target at 50, it is a practice today. Relationships are not milestones to be ticked off, they are lived in each conversation, each act of care. Even learning, when turned into a fixed goal, becomes like chasing a product rather than inhabiting a process. What remains in the wheel, then, are mostly the immaterial material goals: the kind of house, the size of the bank balance, the type of car. And these, as we know, are the most fragile spokes of all.

Arthur Brooks, the famous author of From Strength to Strength, discovered the flaw in this promise. On his fiftieth birthday, he found the bucket list he had written at forty. Every ambition was checked off. Every spoke of his wheel was polished. Every circle of time had been dutifully crossed. And yet he was less happy than before. The wheel was balanced, but it still spun. The destination he had imagined was not waiting for him at the end of the road. Out of this realization came his practice of the “reverse bucket list.” Instead of asking, What do I still want? he asked, What can I let go of? He wrote down his desires, and then crossed them out. Each line struck through was a small liberation, a loosening of the wheel’s grip.

In my own life, as part of a program in 2014, I too was told to do this wheel. I dutifully filled in the spokes, charted the map, imagined the future. And after some years—ten years later—many of those plans did not work out for me. But still I found that one’s happiness does not depend on it. So it was the reverse of Arthur Brooks. He achieved everything and found it empty; I watched many of my ambitions fall away, and still found life whole.

What I discovered is that while we do need essentials to live on—a roof, food, clothes, and some books, music, and so on—those needs can be met without charting out distant goals that kill our present living for the sake of a never‑arriving tomorrow.

And when I moved to the Zendo in 2024, I was still apprehensive. The old habit of worrying about the future lingered. But my Zen master, Fr. AMA Samy, told me gently not to worry so much about what lies ahead. This world has enough for our genuine needs, he said, and even the vast universe cannot satiate our wants. That teaching landed like a stone dropped into a still pond. The ripples continue.

Two stories, two directions, one truth: happiness is not at the rim of the wheel, nor at the summit of the mountain, but at the still center, or in the shifting sands beneath our feet. Whether the spokes fall away by circumstance, or whether we cross them out by choice, the discovery is the same. The essentials are already here. The music is already playing. The book is already open. The breath is already flowing.

Zen calls this letting be. The Tao says, He who knows he has enough is rich. Shakespeare reminds us that all the world’s a stage, but he also hints that the play is already unfolding, whether or not we rehearse our lines. And the Buddha shows us the wheel of samsara, and the still point beyond its turning.

To step off the wheel, to leave the summit, to walk into the desert, is not to abandon life, but to enter it more fully. To live not for the endless “somedays,” but for the enoughness of now.

And when I look back from where I am at this point in time — with the great misty mountains rising on the left side of my room, which is both my living quarters and my working office, with a water wall flowing on the right, and the Zendo hall above — I wonder: would I ever have imagined this ten years ago, while dutifully filling in that wheel exercise to design my future?

The answer is clear. No wheel, no summit, no plan could have charted this. And yet here it is: the life that unfolded, unplanned, ungraded, enough.

Yesterday, as I stepped out of the Zendo after giving my very first introduction to Zen and meditation for a sesshin — entrusted to me by Fr. AMA — I found myself thinking neither about the past (yesterday) nor about the future (tomorrow). There was only the cool air of the hills, the silence of the hall behind me, and the steady rhythm of my own breath. No wheel to fill, no summit to reach, no desert horizon to chase. Just this step, this moment, this enoughness.

The Sky Was Never Disturbed: A Journey Through Doing, Being, and Non-Doing

The Sky Was Never Disturbed: A Journey Through Doing, Being, and Non-Doing

When I was a child in Mannarkkad, I remember seeing Krishnamurti books and audio tapes with Gopala thatha, a cousin of my grandfather. He had studied in Chennai and was deeply interested in Krishnamurti. During my teenage years, I considered myself an atheist and devoured the writings of rationalists like Dr. Kovoor. Meditation came much later—almost thirty years ago—after attending a talk by Swami Chinmayananda while I was searching for a job in Bangalore after graduation (or “non-graduation,” as I sometimes call it). What followed was a period of “window shopping”: at Wipro, then outside with TM, AOL, and Swami Sukhabodhananda. It was a kind of double life—on one hand, I was devouring Krishnamurti (both JK and UG) like a hungry wolf, and on the other, I was searching for meditation. Fortunately, the other streams dried up quickly—either I was kicked out, or I kicked them out. Much later, I found myself at a Vipassanā retreat in Igatpuri, thanks to Dr. Richard McHugh, who had introduced me (and Thara) to NLP. After several Vipassanā courses, including two Satipaṭṭhāna Sutta retreats, I quite serendipitously landed in Perumalmalai, in Zen, with Fr. AMA Samy.

This note is what I learnt mostly from Fr. AMA. Any errors could be my own limited understanding or misunderstanding. Credit wholeheartedly goes to Fr. AMA, my Zen Master, who took me into the Zendo as uchi deshi (live-in disciple).

Meditation, in its refined form, is one of the great gifts of the East to humanity. Across India, China, Japan, and Tibet, it was shaped into a precise discipline—a science of mind and consciousness. From the Buddha’s discovery of Vipassanā, to the Taoist harmonies of breath and spontaneity, to Zen’s radical simplicity of “just sitting,” and the luminous visions of Dzogchen and Mahāmudrā, the traditions converge on a single truth: awakening is not elsewhere, it is here.

When the Buddha sat beneath the Bodhi tree, he had already mastered the meditative techniques of his time. What he discovered was not merely stillness, but insight—the capacity to see impermanence, unsatisfactoriness, and non-self in every arising. This became the heart of vipassana, the disciplined work of cleansing perception. vipassana is like polishing a lens until it becomes clear. Each moment of mindful attention removes the dust of distraction, revealing the insubstantiality of all phenomena.

As the Dharma travelled east, it absorbed the Taoist sense of naturalness and spontaneity. In Zen, this blossomed into Zazen: a practice that does not rely on mantra or image, but on the radical simplicity of just sitting. Here, the mind is not forced into one-pointedness; it is invited to reveal itself. If vipassana is cleansing the lens, Zen is realizing that the lens and the light are not two. And in Shikantaza, one rests as the light itself.

Modern neuroscience helps us glimpse why these practices feel so different. Vipassana’s reframing strengthens the prefrontal cortex and calms the amygdala. Zazen’s concentration builds attentional networks and clarity. Shikantaza’s  acceptance reduces self-referential activity and loosens identification with thought. Reframing changes the story, concentration holds the lens steady, acceptance lets the sky be.

Zen thrives on paradox. Its manuals can run into hundreds of pages, yet the ultimate teaching is to transcend all manuals. Taoism says the Tao cannot be spoken, yet it offers the Tao Te Ching. Zen says enlightenment cannot be grasped, yet it offers koans and rituals. Both traditions use form to go beyond form, words to undo words, method to dissolve method. The way to non-dualism is through dualism. The way to the wordless is through words. Koans and chants are not ends in themselves but devices to exhaust the conceptual mind until it falls silent.

The culmination of Zen meditation is Shikantaza, “just sitting.” Here, even the intentionality of focusing on the breath is released. Awareness is open, unbound, choiceless. This resonates with Krishnamurti’s teaching of choiceless awareness: a seeing without interference of will or method. Tibetan traditions echo this spirit. Dzogchen rests in the natural luminous awareness. Mahāmudrā looks directly at the nature of mind. All point to the same ground: the uncontrived awareness that is always here.

Zen’s most radical affirmation is that samsara is nirvana. Awakening is not elsewhere—it is here, in this very body, in this very land. “This very body is Buddha, this very land is the Lotus Land.” Zen does not suppress desire but sees through it. It does not reject the world but awakens within it.

This is why, when we enter the Zendo, we bow—not to an external idol, but to ourselves, to the Buddha within. Sitting on the zabuton, walking in kinhin, working in samu, Zen reveals that daily life itself is meditation. Sweeping the floor, cooking rice, tending the garden—each is an expression of awakening.

Robert Pirsig captured this spirit in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. He suggested that Buddhahood resides in the gears of a motorcycle as much as in mountain peaks or lotus petals. To care for a machine with attention and reverence is no less an act of awakening than to sit in meditation. The sacred is not confined to temples or scriptures—it is found in the hum of an engine, the sweep of a broom, the breath in the belly.

The Ten Ox-Herding Pictures carry this teaching to its fruition. After searching for the ox, taming it, riding it, and finally forgetting it, the practitioner returns to the marketplace with open hands. The mountaintop represents emptiness and clarity; the marketplace represents form and daily life. The teaching is that emptiness and form are not two. True awakening is not escape but integration. The awakened one returns to the world of fish and toddy, mingling with people, laughing, working, living freely.

The path of meditation moves from doing to being, and finally to non-separation. Vipassanā represents the path of doing: the intentional, disciplined work of cleansing perception. Zazen represents the transition: using the form of posture and breath to settle into being. Shikantaza/Dzogchen/Mahāmudrā represent the culmination in non-doing: resting in the primordial awareness that was always present. Zen’s Radical Affirmation and the Ox-Herder’s Return represent the fruition: the realization of non-separation, where the absolute (nirvana, the mountaintop) and the relative (samsara, the marketplace) are seen as one inseparable reality.

The sky was never disturbed. In realizing this, we discover that meditation is not apart from life, but life itself—doing, being, and non-doing flowing into the freedom of non-separation. This is what I learnt, and continue to learn, from my teacher Fr. AMA Samy. To him I bow, to all teachers past, present, and yet to come, and to the ordinary life that, when seen with clear eyes, reveals itself as extraordinary.

The naive Qn ?

What’s something most people don’t know about you?

The question—“What is something most people don’t know about you?”—has struck me as a little naïve. If “most people” refers to our inner circles, then whatever they don’t already know is probably something we prefer not to broadcast. And if it refers to strangers, then the question isn’t about intimacy at all—it’s about curation. What we choose to share publicly is never our hidden core. It’s a facet we’re willing to place in the open, a glimpse rather than a revelation.

On Purpose: The Absurdity of Purpose: From Naranath Branthan to Zen — and the Freedom to Create Our Own

On Purpose: The Absurdity of Purpose: From Naranath Branthan to Zen — and the Freedom to Create Our Own

I usually write about ordinary events and experiences from my life. Philosophy is not my forte. Even when Fr. AMA asks me to read a Will and Spirit by Gerald May or The End of Desire by Guy Thomson or Isamatsu, I always keep them pending in my book Q and move on to lighter stuff. But this essay got triggered by two random events. One a sharing by a well-read Sangha member during our weekly Q & A in the Zendo. A quote attributed to Albert Camus which said “Whatever keeps us alive from suicide is our life’s purpose”. And another a question by a distant relative of mine to a family friend, “Why did Vishy join a Zendo, What is his purpose in life?”.

Those who know me from childhood know that I was a rolling stone who failed to gather any moss. Almost like a leaf in the storm. No one was sure where I was going to end up. And that includes me.

That quote of Camus comes from his famous book “The Myth of Sisyphus”. That is one of the myth I am familir with . As I have read the folklore story about Naranath Branthan from the wonderful book of Aithihya Mala when I was a small child. That book was a big tome of wonderful collection of legends from the land of Kerala. Naranath Branthan (Madman of Naranath) was considered a divine person, a Mukhta who pretended to be mad. His chief activity consisted of rolling a big stone up a hill and then letting it fall back down. His birthplace is believed to be in Pattambi, very close to where I was born and brought up. There is a large statue of Naranath in Pattambi, Palakkad district of Kerala where he is believed to have lived.

Btw he did have some great pedigree. Naranathu was born as the son of Vararuchi, the famous scholar who adorned the court of Vikramaditya. Naranathu was one among the twelve offsprings of Vararuchi and was brought up in the Naranathu Mangalathu Mana, situated at Chethallur in Palakkad district. Vararuchi’s children were also known as Parayi Petta Panthirukulam (twelve children born from the Pariah woman). That is what legends says.

I tried to put together whatever little bit I knew about purposeless living. And it ended up as a long essay. That is an indicator of how little I know about it. Those who know it well always come up with pithy one-liner maxims… and those who don’t know write an essay. Happy reading and forge your own purposeless purpose.

The Cliché of Purpose

We are raised on a cliché: live with a purpose, make your life meaningful. This refrain echoes in coaching sessions, sermons, classrooms, and boardrooms, often reinforced by the modern self-help canon, from Stephen Covey’s principles to Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning. Frankl’s logotherapy, born from the horrors of the camps, convinced generations that if we can find a “why,” we can endure any “how.” For many, that “why” has been misinterpreted as a divine destiny, a purpose written before birth.

And yet—nothing could be more absurd.

The Myths of Endless Tasks: A Global Chorus

Long before modern philosophy, cultures intuited the futility of searching for a ready-made purpose outside ourselves. Humanity have a shared origin, challenges, issues and myths.  One will find parallels in every place. Myths of endless, repetitive tasks appear across the world, each exposing the emptiness of borrowed purposes.

While Sisyphus was the most famous one across the globe. (Western civilisation had a way of glorifying anything from there at the cost of everything.)

  • Sisyphus (Greek Mythology): Condemned to roll a boulder up a hill only for it to tumble back down, forever.
  • Naranathu Branthan (Kerala Folklore): The “madman” who daily rolled a stone up a hill and let it tumble down, laughing. Villagers mocked him, but in folklore he is remembered as a mukhta (liberated one), showing the futility of worldly pursuits.
  • The Danaids (Greek Mythology): Fifty daughters condemned to carry water in leaky jars that never fill. Their punishment is endless labor without completion.
  • Loki’s Binding (Norse Mythology): Bound beneath a serpent dripping venom, Loki writhes endlessly as his wife catches the drops in a bowl. The cycle never ends.
  • Samsara (Buddhist Teaching): The wheel of rebirth itself is the ultimate endless task—beings repeat craving and suffering until awakening.

These stories whisper the same truth: life does not hand us a ready-made purpose. The gods may impose endless tasks, society may hand us borrowed ideals, but the meaning of those tasks is not given. It is we who must create meaning in the act of living.

Camus and the Absurd

Albert Camus saw this with startling clarity. In The Myth of Sisyphus he begins: “There is but one truly serious philosophical problem, and that is suicide.” If life has no inherent meaning, the first question is whether it is worth living at all.

His answer is not despair but revolt: to live fully, passionately, and creatively, even while knowing life has no ultimate justification. His symbol is Sisyphus, condemned to roll his boulder forever. Camus ends: “One must imagine Sisyphus happy.”

This is the absurd: our hunger for meaning colliding with a silent universe. To demand a cosmic purpose is to fall into illusion. To accept one blindly is what Camus called “philosophical suicide.” Life has no script. Meaning is not found—it is forged in the act of living.

Viktor Frankl and the Search for Meaning

If Camus startled the world by declaring that life is absurd, Viktor Frankl offered a different but equally radical insight: life always has meaning, but it is not given in advance.

Frankl was a psychiatrist, a Jew imprisoned in Auschwitz and Dachau, who lost his parents, brother, and pregnant wife in the camps. Out of that crucible came Man’s Search for Meaning (1946). Unlike Camus, who framed the question in terms of suicide and revolt, Frankl framed it in terms of survival and dignity.

The Core of Logotherapy

Frankl called his approach Logotherapy—from the Greek logos, meaning “meaning.” Where Freud emphasized pleasure and Adler emphasized power, Frankl insisted that the primary drive of human beings is the will to meaning.

He was clear: this meaning is not ordained by God, fate, or some cosmic script. It is not a universal “purpose of life” that applies to everyone. Instead, it is always personal, concrete, and situational. Life, he said, is like a series of questions posed to us. We do not get to ask “what is the meaning of life?” in the abstract. Rather, life asks us, and we answer by how we live.

Three Pathways to Meaning

  1. Through creative work – what we give to the world.
  2. Through experiencing love, beauty, or goodness – what we receive from the world.
  3. Through the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering – how we bear what cannot be changed.

This third pathway is perhaps his most profound. He did not glorify suffering, but he insisted that when suffering is unavoidable, we still retain the freedom to choose our stance. In that freedom lies dignity.

Freedom and Responsibility

For Frankl, the essence of being human is freedom and responsibility. We are free to choose our response to any situation, and we are responsible for what we make of that freedom. Even in Auschwitz, stripped of everything, he wrote: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.”

This is why Logotherapy is not about prescribing meaning, but about helping people discover it for themselves.

Frankl and Camus: Divergence and Convergence

Placed alongside Camus, the contrast is striking:

  • Camus: Life has no inherent meaning. The universe is indifferent. Our task is to revolt, to live fully without appeal.
  • Frankl: Life always has meaning, but it is not abstract or preordained. It must be discovered in the concrete moment, through work, love, or suffering.

And yet, there is a strange convergence. Both reject the idea of a cosmic script. Both insist that meaning, if it exists, must be lived here and now. Both affirm human freedom in the face of a silent universe.

Camus imagines Sisyphus happy as he pushes his stone. Frankl imagines the prisoner dignified as he endures the camp. Both are affirmations of life without guarantees.

Born Empty, Creating Ourselves

When we are born, we are born with almost empty minds. Nature fills us just enough to survive—breath, instinct, the capacity to grow. But beyond that, it leaves us open. And the more empty the mind space we are given at the start, the more possibility there is for becoming.

For animals, that emptiness seems limited. Their minds are tuned to survival, their instincts already inscribed. But for human beings, the mindspace is vast—as vast as the sky. David Hume once described the mind as tabula rasa, an empty slate. Into that openness, experience begins to write.

From the very beginning, we start creating ourselves. First comes identity: the fragile sense of “I” that forms in infancy, the ego that allows us to navigate the world. Later, we begin to create our own purposes.

The phrase “find your purpose” misleads us. It suggests that our purpose has been created by someone else, hidden somewhere out there, waiting to be discovered like a buried treasure. That is simply not true. Purpose is not preordained. It is not second-hand.

Just as we once created our identity, we must also create our own purpose. To recreate our purpose is to recreate ourselves, to peg our own space within this vast world. And because each of us is unique, so too will be our purpose.

The purposes of others—whether Buddha, Krishnamurti, or Mother Teresa—are not ours to inherit. They may inspire us, but they cannot substitute for our own. To live by another’s purpose is to live a second-hand life.

We must create our own purpose out of nothing. Out of the emptiness we were born into. Out of the freedom that nature gave us.

Nature’s Silence and Our Fallacy of Purpose

If we look to nature for an answer, we find only a deeper silence. From an evolutionary perspective, survival and flourishing are what life “does.” Traits like the capacity for storytelling, the feeling of awe and wonder, the urge to laugh and play, the creation of ritual and dance, and the making of music and humour evolved because they helped us endure and bond.

Nature does not ask “why.” The tree does not grow to give shade. The river does not flow to quench thirst. The lion does not hunt “for” the zebra. The ecological food chain itself “just happened”—a web of interactions shaped by chance, adaptation, and extinction.

Our fallacy is to imagine that because something works, it must have been designed for that purpose. Camus would call this the absurd. Zen would call it emptiness.

Fr. AMA’s Teaching: Companions on the Path

In a conversation, Fr. AMA once told me:
“Humour makes humans. Animals are not known to have it. Some humans too. That is what makes us not only cope up, but successfully face the absurdity of our life. Please remember Humour and Music elevate the human mind. They are very much part of Zen.”

He also said that many of history’s richest traditions of humour—from the Jewish diaspora to Irish folklore—have emerged from communities that endured immense suffering.

These words remind me that humour and music are not diversions from the path, but essential companions on it. They are ways of lifting the mind, of facing the absurdity of life without despair.

Where Camus and Zen Meet

At first glance, Camus and Zen seem worlds apart—one born of French existentialism, the other of Oriental contemplative practice. Yet they meet in surprising ways:

  • Facing reality without illusions: Camus rejects consoling stories; Zen rejects clinging to concepts. Both demand a stark, unvarnished encounter with “what is.”
  • Living fully in the present: Camus’ revolt is a passionate engagement with the immediate; Zen’s awakening is a profound presence in the here and now. Both are radical affirmations of this moment, free from the ghosts of the past or the mirages of the future.
  • Joy in the midst of futility: Camus’ Sisyphus finds happiness in his endless, pointless task. This is the final, crucial convergence. For Camus, the joy is born of defiance, of owning one’s fate entirely. For Zen, the joy is born of non-attachment, of realizing that the futility itself was the illusion. When you stop struggling against the rock and simply push, the pushing becomes the point. The weight of the rock is no longer a punishment but the very substance of his existence. This is the “mind of daily life” in Zen—the profound peace found in chopping wood and carrying water, even when the wood will be burned and the thirst will return.

The Forged Purpose

So, where does this leave the cliché of purpose? It shatters it. The idea of a pre-written, cosmic purpose is exposed as a comforting fiction, an attempt to escape the terrifying and magnificent freedom of our condition.

Frankl does not contradict this; he reframes it. He agrees that no universal “why” is handed to us. Instead, life is a continuous questioning. Our purpose is not a noun to be found, but a verb to be enacted. It is the answer we give to life through our work, our love, and our stance toward suffering. We do not discover our purpose; we decide it, moment by moment.

We are born empty, and that emptiness is our canvas. We are not born with a purpose; we are born with the capacity to create one. And just as we created our identity from the raw material of experience, we forge our purpose from the raw material of our freedom.

The Companionable Path

This is where Fr. AMA’s teaching rings true. In a universe devoid of intrinsic meaning, humour and music are not trivial. They are evolutionary gifts that we have repurposed for our existential survival. Humour is the ultimate weapon against the absurd—it does not deny the futility but laughs in its face, disarming its terror. Music is the rhythm of our forged meaning, a way to harmonize our inner chaos and connect with others on the same path.

They are the companions Fr. AMA spoke of, helping us to walk the path without despair. They are the tools that elevate the mind from the “how” of survival to the “why” of a life worth living.

Ultimately, the synthesis of Camus, Frankl, and Zen points not to a single answer, but to a way of being: to live with our eyes wide open to the absurd silence of the universe, yet with a heart fully engaged in the vivid, tangible, and fleeting world before us.

We must imagine Sisyphus and Naranathu Branthan happy not in spite of their tasks, but because they have made the act of pushing the rock their own. This is their magnificent, defiant, and deeply personal purpose.

The purpose was never in the summit; it was in the push.

Now since we started with the absurdity of life, we may end with it. Albert Camus is supposed to be one of the most influential voices of the 20th century, shaping philosophy, literature, and political thought through his articulation of the absurd, despite dying tragically young at 46.

Camus’ impact is remarkable given the brevity of his life. His novels (The Stranger, The Plague), essays (The Myth of Sisyphus, The Rebel), and journalism made him a central figure in existentialism and absurdism, even though he resisted being labelled. He won the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1957, one of the youngest ever recipients, for illuminating “the problems of the human conscience in our time.” His insistence on confronting the absurd without illusions—neither surrendering to despair nor escaping into dogma—continues to influence philosophy, literature, and even political ethics.

There is also a haunting irony in the story of his death. Camus was known to have an almost absurd fear of cars, often preferring to travel by train. In January 1960, however, he accepted a ride with his publisher Michel Gallimard in a sports car. Near Villeblevin, the car crashed, killing Camus instantly and fatally injuring Gallimard. In Camus’ coat pocket was found a train ticket—he had originally planned to return to Paris by rail. Alongside it was the unfinished manuscript of his last work, The First Man.

That ending, so sudden and ironic, seemed to echo the very philosophy he had articulated: life is fragile, unpredictable, and absurd. Yet Camus’ legacy endures precisely because he showed that even in the face of absurdity, one can live with dignity, creativity, humour, and revolt.

Though I don’t roll rocks up the mountain of Perumalmalai, I spend time in lighting the lamps at the Zendo and dokusan room, feeding or walking Bhim the Zendog,  bowing to our guests at the zendo door, sweeping the zendo floor and some time writing meaningless essays.

The Mist, The Lens, and AI: A Zen Guide to Clarity, Discernment, and Insight…

The Mist, The Lens, and AI: A Zen Guide to Clarity, Discernment, and Insight…

When I skipped a Zazen session to catch up on pending tasks, the mists and mountains seemed to come checking in. Instinctively, I tried to take a snap with my iPhone 16e.

“AI (Apple Intelligence) said: “Clean the camera lens.” 😀
AI is quite good. But Nature is a better product designer than humans. Any day, any time. 😀

It’s almost comic, isn’t it — AI urging you to “clean the lens,” while Nature is busy painting with fog, reminding us that clarity isn’t always the point. Sometimes the most truthful image is the one that hides as much as it shows.”

This share drew more responses than usual. One asked me whether Zen is anti‑tech.

I smile at the question. I’ve lived in technology for three decades. From IBM mainframes with TN3270 terminals and 5‑inch floppy diskettes, through Pascal, Fortran, COBOL, PL/1, C, minicomputers, HTML, XML, Java… I’ve seen the whole parade. Later, I spent another dozen years in Business Change Consulting. And if I look back honestly, much of what was called “transformation” was really just technology adoption masquerading as transformation. Tools changed, buzzwords changed, but the deeper work — how people think, decide, and act — was often left untouched.

What people miss is this: beneath every leap of technology, there was tremendous human endeavour. Nothing came out of thin air. Every so‑called revolution was built on the painstaking work of engineers, researchers, and practitioners who sweated through trial and error.

In those days, before CIOs became a fixture in organisations, users were cautious. Especially when it touched critical functions of human life. No beta versions, please. A few pioneers jumped into the cesspool of changes, but most waited for the defects and effects to surface and be rectified before adopting. There was always a gap — a chasm — between pioneers and early adopters.

And here’s another shift I’ve witnessed: in the early days, technology and industry were about designing and building products that lasted. My father wore a Favre Leuba watch for over 40 years. It worked wonderfully. Newspapers carried stories of Toyota Corollas or Mercedes Benz cars clocking 200,000 km with ease. Durability was a mark of pride.

But somewhere along the way, in the greed of economics, the philosophy changed. Planned obsolescence became the model. Phones that slow down after a few years, software that forces upgrades, cars that are more electronics than engines. The cycle of consumption sped up, and with it came the illusion of progress.

And yet, not all change is regress. Some changes are truly good. They add value to us — individually and collectively. The core question is whether those changes are tested, evaluated, and implemented in such a way that they can be called progress for all, rather than just swelling the bank balances of a few.

Later, when I went back to APU for a full‑time postgraduate course in Education, I took a class on Education Technology. A professor from Finland told us how, after the initial euphoria, Nordic countries were returning to more traditional schooling. She reminded us of Steve Jobs’ own words: when asked if his children loved the iPad, he said, “They haven’t used it. We limit how much technology our kids use at home.” The paradox is striking: the creator of the iPad preferred his children to rely on books, conversation, and presence. The Nordics, too, discovered that tools are useful, but they cannot replace the atmosphere of learning.

This is not new. Back in 1962, Everett Rogers, a rural sociologist, studied how farmers adopted hybrid corn. He noticed adoption followed a predictable curve: innovators, early adopters, early majority, late majority, laggards. That became the Technology Adoption Life Cycle. Decades later, Geoffrey Moore — once an English professor — reframed it in Crossing the Chasm. He saw that between early adopters and the early majority there is a dangerous gap. Not because people are too skeptical or cautious, but because visionaries and pragmatists live by different values. The chasm is not resistance. It is a threshold.

And now, AI. A wonderful tool, the culmination of work on neural networks since the 1940s. But some of the claims I read today are extraordinary… Many forget that AI is, at its core, another computer program written by humans.

AI can simulate conversation, generate images, even mimic reasoning. But simulation is not embodiment. AI does not live in a body, carry memory in the marrow, or transmit atmosphere through silence. To confuse fluency with wisdom is to mistake the mist for a dirty lens.

We must remember: AI is not born but made. Its “intelligence” is painstakingly sculpted through training, and its wisdom is fundamentally bounded by the quality and scope of that original dataset. This boundedness is by design—a necessary guardrail, as seen with early systems like Tay, to prevent misuse.

This reveals the chasm between artificial training and human nurture. An AI operates as a closed system; its knowledge is a snapshot, frozen in time, with interactions kept in transactional isolation. Human wisdom, in contrast, is an open system, unbounded by life itself. We learn through wilful, integrated synthesis—constantly connecting conversations, emotions, and experiences in a messy, living tapestry of understanding.

This is why AI, for all its power, cannot be truly spiritual or social. These realms require the very integration and embodied context that its architecture prevents.

And hype is not confined to AI. Remember Theranos? Genny Harrison, who worked in Silicon Valley, wrote of how executives around her canonized Elizabeth Holmes while dismissing questions about functionality. “It was faith disguised as innovation,” she wrote. “The black turtleneck became a costume for credibility. The TED Talk tone replaced evidence. It was never about blood testing. It was about belief.”

Holmes knew exactly what she was doing. By donning the black turtleneck, she borrowed the aura of Steve Jobs, hoping to cloak herself in his myth of genius and inevitability. It was a prop, a costume, a calculated illusion. And it worked — until it didn’t.

Theranos collapsed, but the machinery that made it possible never stopped. Every few months another founder emerges with the same manic optimism and the same empty promises, and we fall for it again.

Zen is not anti‑tech. It is anti‑illusion. The mist on the zendo lens is not a flaw but a teaching. The Theranos story is not an exception but a mirror. The chasm is not skepticism — it is the threshold between vision and proof. And AI, too, is not magic. It is a tool, and its claims must be tested, not worshipped. Education reminds us: atmosphere, presence, discernment matter more than devices.

Zen also teaches us to be in touch with reality. The Buddha, in the Kalama Sutta, urged: “Do not go by reports, by legends, by traditions, by scripture… but when you know for yourselves that these things are wholesome and lead to welfare, then you should practice them.” For Zen practitioners, great faith is always balanced by great doubt. Faith without doubt becomes blind belief; doubt without faith becomes cynicism. Together, they keep us alive to reality.

And Zen warns of makyō — the delusions that arise in meditation, dazzling visions that can seduce us away from truth. But makyō is not confined to the cushion. In the tech world, hype cycles, inflated valuations, and charismatic founders are also forms of makyō. They dazzle, but they are not reality.

From Rogers’ cornfields to Moore’s chasm, from mainframes and floppy disks to AI’s extraordinary claims, from Nordic classrooms back to chalkboards, from the black turtleneck of Theranos to the mist‑covered zendo, and from watches and cars built to last to systems endlessly swapped between Oracle and SAP — the real adoption curve is not about technology at all.

It is about learning to see through illusion, to honor the human endeavour beneath every leap, and to return, again and again, to reality.

I am not a tech hater. I appreciate the extraordinary things AI can do. But discernment matters. Not every wave is worth riding. Progress is not measured by the speed of adoption, but by whether it truly serves human well‑being.

In this era of overhype, it is important to be a conscious practitioner and an aware user. When many confuse simulation for substance, caution is not undue fear but wisdom. Asking “how” and “why” before jumping into the cesspool of “what next” is the only antidote to cynicism and hype.

Questioning is not cynicism. It is clarity.

In recent times, many extraordinary claims have been made by persons of repute. But as Carl Sagan wisely reminded us: ‘Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.’

AI is neither Frankenstein’s monster, as some fear, nor a divine panacea, as some hope. It is not apocalypse, nor salvation. Like the wheel, fire, or even sliced bread, it is simply another invention — extraordinary, yes, but still human-made. It is a tool — perhaps as consequential as the wheel, fire, or sliced bread — but still a tool, shaped by human hands and human choices. One should never forget the fact that AI is another computer program… Maybe a much better one. Still a computer program.

And the most important founding principle of computers and programs remains unchanged: GIGO — Garbage In, Garbage Out. However advanced the system, it cannot rise above the quality of its inputs. Only the human mind can discern, in the living moment, what is garbage and what is not.

And so, the mist returns. The zendo lens fogged not to obscure, but to remind: clarity is not always the point. Illusion is not always error — sometimes it is teaching. Technology, like mist, can veil or reveal. The task is not to worship the fog or the lens, but to see through both, to discern what truly serves life.

In the end, Zen is not anti‑tech. It is anti‑illusion. The mountains in mist, the black turtleneck of Theranos, the hype cycles of AI — all are invitations to look again. To pause. To test. To return, again and again, to reality.

P.S. I ran this past Copilot, my partner‑in‑crime, and even from an AI perspective my apprehensions seem valid. While it is important to use a tool, it is equally important not to be used by a Tool.

Life and its principles…

What principles define how you live?

This question is a trick. It beats against the very essence of life itself.

It is we who live. Principles should not define how we live. Rather, the way we live should define principles.

The question presupposes that life is a manual, a set of rules to be followed. But life is not a manual — it is a movement, a flow, a song.

The river doesn’t flow because of the banks; the banks exist because the river has carved its way.

A poem isn’t written because of grammar; grammar is noticed because poems and speech already exist.

Zen doesn’t arise from doctrine; doctrine arises from the living experience of practice.

So if you ask me what principles define how I live, I would say: None. I live. And from that living, principles may appear — as footprints, not as maps.

Vanaprastha for Our Times: On Burnout, Busyness, and the Third Path

Vanaprastha for Our Times: On Burnout, Busyness, and the Third Path

When M@@@@Lee first arrived at our zendo, I was struck by his quiet discipline. Middle‑aged, yet carrying the vitality of someone twenty years younger, he never missed a single zazen session. He spoke little, preferring to rest his gaze on forests, hills, and waterfalls rather than books. Only later did I learn of his past: 18 years in the United States as a chartered accountant, often working eighteen‑hour days in investment banks, living in luxury until burnout forced a reckoning.

For the last One and half decades, he has lived like a nomad, frugal and free. He speaks of happiness and contentment not as achievements, but as discoveries. His story is a living commentary on Byung‑Chul Han’s The Burnout Society. Han, another son of Korea, describes how the achievement society—with its relentless drive to optimize, perform, and succeed—leads not to freedom but to exhaustion. He contrasts deep attention, the contemplative focus that gave rise to philosophy and art, with hyperattention, the restless scattering of the mind across endless stimuli. In losing boredom and silence, Han warns, we lose the very conditions for renewal.

Lee embodies the medicine Han prescribes. His burnout was the breaking point Han diagnoses. His nomadic simplicity is the refusal of the achievement society. His steady zazen restores the deep attention Han says we have lost. His gaze on forests and waterfalls is a return to what Han calls the contemplative dwelling that modernity has abandoned.

And then there is Gopal, a respected corporate leader who recently reflected on his own transition into retirement. Quoting his father, he wrote: “To catch a train that has already started, you may have to run alongside it before jumping in.” It is a wise metaphor for transitions, yet it also reveals the subtle compulsion many of us feel—to keep running, to keep filling life with activity, even when the train we are chasing may not be ours to board.

In observing these two paths—Lee’s and Gopal’s—we see a fundamental dichotomy in how we face life’s transitions. On one end lies the person who is totally burnt out… On the other, the person who, even after a great innings…

So it is safe to assume there are two kinds of people out there. The exhausted renouncer and the restless achiever. One who feels totally burnt out and want nothing to do with it. For him, emptying his mind about anything about it is what makes the rest of his life worthwhile. While the other, after a great innings and having done brilliantly well in his chosen profession, still is eager to jump into the next train of achievement. After reaching the top of the pyramid, why the eagerness, why the worry about the next phase of productivity? Monetary considerations of worry about a lesser lifestyle may not be the reasons. If one is intended to use their great expertise and knowledge of serving the mankind for the rest of their life after a great fist innings, may not get that wary about what s/he will be doing with their time. Being not comfortable about not being in limelight, could be one. Or maybe it is due to the worry about how to be with the void /emptiness in their life.

Even if  they worry about the next innings for none of the above mentioned reasons and it is just for timepass, when we call it timepass—scrolling reels, flipping channels, or filling the calendar with trivialities—it is rarely innocent. Beneath the surface lies the same movement: the fear of the void.

We are uneasy with silence, with the space where applause fades and identity loosens. So we keep ourselves busy, not because the activity nourishes us, but because it shields us from emptiness.

But as Krishnamurti reminds us, emptiness is not a defect to be patched over. It is a doorway. When we stop trying to fill it, the void reveals itself as fullness—alive with creativity, compassion, and presence.

The real courage is not in passing time, but in letting time pass through us, unresisted.

Here, Pascal’s old warning rings true: “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Whether it is the youth endlessly scrolling through reels, the middle‑ager flipping through channels, or the retiree rushing to fill the calendar, the root is the same: our discomfort with stillness.

Krishnamurti went even deeper. He observed that as long as the mind is seeking to fill its emptiness, it will remain empty. We try to fill the void with activity, possessions, relationships, or applause, but this only perpetuates the sense of lack. He wrote: “As long as the mind is seeking to fill itself, it will always be empty. When the mind is no longer concerned with filling its own emptiness, then only does that emptiness cease to be.”

For Krishnamurti, emptiness is not a defect to be patched over, but a doorway. “In emptiness alone can there be creation,” he said. When the mind stops running, stops filling, stops chasing trains, it discovers a silence that is not absence but presence. From that silence, something new can be born—innocence, creativity, compassion.

This is the crucial distinction:

  • To fill hunger is natural, necessary, life‑sustaining.
  • To fill psychological emptiness is endless, and often destructive.

When activity arises from genuine need or from the joy of service, it nourishes. When it arises from fear of silence or the craving for applause, it drains.

Zen would call this the great death of the striving self. And in that death, a new life appears—one that needs little, yet feels complete.

In the ancient Indian worldview, Vānaprastha—the stage of “going to the forest”—was not only for ordinary householders but also for kings and emperors, who were expected to renounce power and wealth at their peak and turn toward contemplation. King Bharata, after whom Bhārat (India) is named, is one of the most striking examples: he gave up his throne and retreated into the forest to seek liberation.

Today, the forest may not be a literal place, but a state of mind—an inner withdrawal from applause and limelight into presence.

Between the exhausted renouncer and the restless achiever, there are a few rare ones who discover meaning early and live it seamlessly until their last breath. For them, life is not about applause or limelight, nor about withdrawal in exhaustion. Their work itself is their prayer, their service, their offering.

Saba Naqvi once wrote of Mallikarjun Mansur, the saintly Hindustani vocalist from Dharwar. Stricken with lung cancer, doctors had given up. His daughter was told not to deny him the things he loved most. In his final moments, he asked for a bidi, and as he drew on it, he was still humming Raga Jogiya, almost inaudibly. With the raga on his lips, his head rolled over, and he was gone. His art was his final breath.

Another story is told of Abdul Karim Khan, founder of the Kirana gharana. On his way to Puducherry to sing for Sri Aurobindo, he sensed his end was near. He stepped off the train at an unknown station, spread out his prayer mat, and sang his last song. He died there on the platform. He did not board the next train of achievement—he stepped off, to let music itself carry him across.

And I see the same spirit in my own Zen master, Fr. AMA Samy. At ninety, he still sends emails at 3:30 a.m. with reflections, still walks into the zendo for early morning meditation. His life is not about filling time or clinging to relevance. It is about continuity of presence, a rhythm of practice that does not retire.

These lives remind us that there is a third path: not renunciation in exhaustion, not striving for the next platform, but a life so deeply rooted in one’s calling that even the final breath is an act of practice, art, or service. For them, there is only one train—the train to eternity.

In the end, whether we are young and restless, middle‑aged and distracted, or retired and still wary of leaving the limelight, the invitation is the same: to stop running, to stop filling, to sit still. The rishis called it Vānaprastha. Han calls it deep attention. Pascal calls it the courage to sit quietly. Krishnamurti calls it the doorway of emptiness. Zen calls it the great death of the striving self. Many names, one truth: the train we most need to catch is not out there on the tracks—it is already here, in the stillness of this very moment.

Truly, We Are What We Are When No One Else Is Watching…

Truly, We Are What We Are When No One Else Is Watching…

Almost all our problems stem from lack of congruence—lack of integrity. When we are torn between two pieces—the inner voice that knows what is true for us, and the outer mask that seeks approval, recognition, or safety—conflict is the result.

we live in tension. That tension is exhausting. It breeds anxiety, self‑doubt, and the constant feeling of being “out of place” even in our own lives

long-time back, in 1998, I was visiting California. My close friends James Mathew and Komal Jain were working in San Jose then. Unni and I flew in. We were planning to drive down to LA through Highway 1 along the Pacific coast, with a pit stop in Big Sur. I just wanted to see the Esalen Institute. During those times, I was trying to get into a good MBA school. (Though I did land in one of the second‑tier schools then, I did not pursue for want of money.)

James, Unni and I drove down to Stanford. They had asked me to visit the campus and assigned a current student to walk me through. Our host was a Catholic priest from New Zealand, working in the Vatican. One question I had was with respect to our essays and recommendations. I asked him, “Do prospective students write their own recommendations?” He replied, “It is possible. But integrity is for ourselves. We are what we are when no one is watching.”

That learning stayed with me. Integrity is not a social quality—it is a personal one. It cannot be enforced on another, nor can it be measured by applause or recognition. It is the quiet covenant we keep with ourselves, the alignment between our inner compass and our actions when no one else will ever know. Social morality may depend on rules and consequences, but integrity begins where rules end.

And here lies the connection with judgment. Much of our inner conflict comes from the masks we wear in society—performing, projecting, seeking approval. The dichotomy between the self we show and the self we hide creates unease. The Bible says, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged.” That begins with ourselves. The moment we stop judging ourselves, we stop performing for the world’s imagined gaze. We no longer live for recognition, vanity, or pride. Instead, we begin to live from our truest center, where integrity burns like a steady flame—unseen, yet unwavering.

Integrity, then, is not about morality in the social sense, but about wholeness. The word itself comes from integer—to be whole, undivided. When we are congruent, when what we think, feel, and do are aligned, there is a natural ease. Life flows.

And this is where judgment comes in. The moment we judge ourselves, we split ourselves in two: the one who acts, and the one who criticizes. That inner division is the seed of suffering. When we stop judging—even ourselves—we stop tearing ourselves apart. We return to wholeness.

So in a way:  Lack of congruence = lack of integrity = inner division.

Integrity = congruence = wholeness.

And wholeness is freedom. It is the state where we no longer need to perform, defend, or seek applause. We simply are.

After , Thara and I came back to India from the USA ( now disUnited Empire of Trump !)  , we decided to settle down in Kanakapura road. Closer to a Krishnamurti school. Our children, Manu and Rishi were students there and Thara a Teacher and I was a frequent visitor at the KFI study center. I used to be very regular for the monthly study sessions ( first  Sunday of every month). Once, as I was getting ready for the monthly study session, my son Manu asked me where I was going. I said, ‘KFI study centre.’ He looked at me and said, like a young Socrates or UG Krishnamurti: ‘You people are going to talk about things you don’t know. At that point of time, I might have read almost all the books of Krishnamurti ( infact the late Dr. Satish Inamdar used to tell me half seriously and half-jokingly , that when I stopped reading , I will understand JK better.), I also used to be a regular visitor of UG whenever he used to visit Blr. But that question of Manu was like a thunder bolt. And set my own inner enquiry of what do I know about  it . May be , that kind of took me to a full time MA Education course at APU , where I chose courses like Phenomenology , Epistemology etc.  That kind of helped me to read between the lines, whenever someone else , “usually a know all gas bag types”, yap about spirituality.  Whenever I used to write, I stopped being an interpreter of those great knowledge . Rather I started sharing my own inner travels and experiences.  Many of them of insecurity, brokenness, helplessness and what little I understood from my own seeking. But one thing, I ensured, is I spoke what I thought and felt.  Many a times, that got me thrown out of my jobs, ended good relationships, and put myself under the bus.  But still I thought I was being what I am. Some of those who broke away , came back to my life and those relationships were stronger. Some of those ended and I thought that was the way it is.

That thunderbolt from Manu deepened my inquiry into what I truly knew, and it prepared me for the uncompromising honesty I would later encounter with my Zen master, Fr. AMA. That seed of integrity, planted in me by a Catholic priest in California, found its full flowering years later under the guidance of another Jesuit Priest and my Zen master, Fr. AMA. Fr. AMA who is also my Zen Master and Mentor.   Over the last 12 years , after being accepted as a student , I would have asked him more than 1000 questions. And especially during the last 3 years, when I became a resident at Kanzeon Zendo and his assistant.  Many of them were very provocative and came from my ego , “all knowing” arrogant self.  Many were in Dokusan 1 -1 interviews and many during our open  Q &A session at the Zendo hall. Infact Dr. Meath Conlan a Sangha member from Australia wrote in his memoir that “His thoughtful questions during evening sangha sessions with the Master leave me dumbfounded. I admire his comprehension of Zen and his courage in asking questions. I sense that often Vishy voices exactly what the rest of others were wondering but hadn’t found words or forthrightness to express.”  Fr. AMA  He always answered with the same calmness and smile. Not once he had flinched. Some the questions he said he does not know. And some of them, even personal ones, he answered honestly. The questions including in the problems with religions, sexuality, greed and anything under the sun.

His unwavering calm in the face of my ‘arrogant self’ and provocative questions embodies the very wholeness I was seeking. He didn’t need to perform the role of an ‘all-knowing’ master. By sometimes saying “I do not know” and always answering honestly, he modeled the integrity I was looking for He was a living example of a person who is no longer torn between pieces, who has dissolved the inner critic, and who operates from that “truest center.”

And that is the ultimate lesson in spiritual seeking I learnt. 

Living an ordinary life of compassion and service, with integrity, is the Way. Not elsewhere, not in some other world, but here. As Hakuin Zenji wrote: ‘This very body is Buddha, this very land is lotus land

When the art of living is the only pastime!

What is your favorite hobby or pastime?

Living . Living every moment. What else can be a better hobby or pastime? People seek a hobby or pastime, when their life is dull and dreary and they need to find their inner peace and joy from when not living ! Living is the ultimate pastime . A pastime fills time and living fills being . As a zen saying “ every day mind is the way “

Not the Last Word: Writing Without Forecasts

Not the Last Word: Writing Without Forecasts

Why astrological forecast is effective is, it is often written in quite vague language and at the very least it may happen to any one of the readers. For those for whom it had happened becomes a believers of astrology. It is called the Barnum Effect (or Forer Effect), where vague, general statements are perceived as highly personal and accurate. People remember the one line that resonated and forget the twenty that didn’t. It’s a passive, broad net approach to connection.

I write with no plan in my mind. No agenda. No aim. No crafting the message. No worries about the SM algorithm… There are weeks in which I could write 3–4 blogs. Often the trigger is a very ordinary experience in day‑to‑day life, or a sight, or a phone call, or a passage I get to read. And then I got to wake up from my sleep and just complete the writing…

“Ask yourself in the most silent hour of your night: must I write? Dig into yourself for a deep answer. And if this answer rings out in assent, if you meet this solemn question with a strong, simple ‘I must,’ then build your life in accordance with this necessity.” —Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

That is close to how I experience writing. It is not planned, not crafted for applause, but something that insists on being written. Sometimes it wakes me up from sleep. Sometimes it comes from the most ordinary of sights or conversations.

During the initial days, I used to let whatever gets written be published as it is. As one who had my school education in vernacular medium and in Govt and Govt‑aided schools, my English is often Manglish. Guess, I think in Malayalam and type in English. Core readers remain the same. They are my dear and near and people who know me a bit. But when I tried to put together and publish, I was told I had to get them edited. One established editor, at first, said plainly to me that she was busy with a few more projects and asked me to share a few samples. She may get back. I thought that was a polite and very compassionate way of saying no. And after a few days, she wrote back saying she would edit. And those were the first writings that went under the ikebana scalpel of an Editor. I should complement my Editor, Rasna, for making those passages eminently readable.

After that, initially I used to use Hemington and Mars 21 Editors… When I saw there were too many RED marks, I stopped using them. Nowadays, Copilot editor in MS Word throws up severe grammatical guffaws, and I do spend a bit of time correcting them. Still not much worried about the SM traction and applause. Whenever I think it is complete, I publish. Sometimes in early Monday morning or Sunday afternoon.

My Zen master, Fr. AMA Samy, has written around forty books, given countless teishos, and continues to share his thoughts with students through the Bodhi Sangha Forum. And every time he completes a book, he tells me that it is his last. I took up the responsibility of editing his “last” book. And by the time I finished it, he had another one. That is the way of true expression—it does not end when we think it should. What feels like the last word is only a pause before the next arises.

One thing I notice: every single blog, I get a note from one of the readers saying that the writing is just apt for the current moment in their life. To be honest, that does make me a bit happy. But then I realise, I am not living in another planet. I share this world with them. In fact, all beings are connected. While we have our own uniqueness, there are more things common amongst ourselves. One’s pain, joy, peace, love, compassion etc. are also commonly experienced. I may be seeing the Sun and Moon in Perumalmalai—the same Sun and Moon that appears in Dallas or Bangalore.

And when I published my first book, I had a list of 20 names, my inner circles in Dubar groups, whom I thought would buy the book and make an effort to read. As of today more than 100 copies were sold. Out of those first list of 20 names, only around 10–12 people bought. Maybe the way I see others is not the way others see me. But when someone who was unknown to me personally writes a one‑liner, it touches me deeply. It reminds me that words have their own journey, and they find their readers in unexpected places.

And usually when you seek or look for inspiration and motivation, there is none in the world. The same goes with applause and likes as well. When one starts writing for the sake of writing (at the least writing for oneself), one finds there is a fountain of inspiration or motivation deep within. When one reaches that, one really ceases to look for external motivators such as applause or likes.

While seekers of a moment’s fame and name try to decipher what makes a post viral and how the LinkedIn and FB algorithms are framed, they don’t realise that there is no rhyme or reason for literary fame, name, and wealth. Some of the best names such as Kafka or Thoreau were hardly known during their lifetimes, yet they made a lasting impact after they had left this world. Again, my favourite author O. V. Vijayan became a legend with his first book, and its success was never repeated. Many said he missed a Nobel only because it was too difficult to translate his surreal painting‑like prose from Malayalam to English. Perhaps if those Nobel Committee members had learnt to read Malayalam, he would have won. The same goes for Kamala Das too. And Arundhati Roy, in contrast, struck gold with her very first book.

Buddha had originally just ten core disciples. Christ had twelve, and one of them went rogue — Judas Iscariot. Socrates too had only a handful of students. Their teaching lasted because they focused on the substance. Modern times may be different, but principles are not. Focus on substance: keep the work excellent, curate visibility, share progress in ways that highlight impact, not just effort, and always align with meaning — connect your work to the “why” it matters to you and the world.

It is a bit like the sound of the Zendo bell. The bell itself (performance) must be well‑cast and resonant. But unless it is struck and allowed to reverberate (projection), no one hears its music. The bell is not diminished by being heard; its essence is fulfilled in resonance. Last month, I had to redo the Zendo lead role again. I seemed to have forgotten the way bells were struck. After the early morning Zazen, Fr. AMA called me and spent quite some time teaching me again. The core teaching is: one lets go of the need to project, then the sound of the bell becomes music. It projects itself.

“He who stands on tiptoe does not stand firm. He who rushes ahead does not go far. He who tries to shine dims his own light. If you want to accord with the Tao, just do your job, then let go.” —Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

I was not always like this. For a long time, I too tracked book sales and counted likes on blogs, as if numbers could measure meaning. But then Rishi, my second son — an exceptional painter and sculptor — declined my suggestion to hold a gallery show to showcase his work. He simply told me, “Papa, currently I am doing this for myself. Maybe later… I am in no hurry for those things.” As he left home to pursue his dual degree in Arts and Economics, I realised that at that young age he had already come out as an integrated human being. His words stayed with me, and they continue to remind me that the truest art is born not from the hunger for recognition, but from the fullness of being.

After the last book, I too received a note from a very unexpected quarter. The person wrote that he is not much of a reader—his breaks usually come from watching movies or listening to music. He said he bought the book only because it was written by his friend, which is me. But after the first chapter, he found it interesting and ended up reading it fully. The closing line of his note was: “When are you publishing your next one?”

The answer I did not share with him was: I too am not in a hurry. When it happens, it will happen.

After all, a writer does not really write for others. The best musicians are those who play their music just for their own ears. And the best players are those who don’t play for the gallery. Humans pursue a literary form, an art, or a game not merely for external validation, but to steady the sails within, and to make their inner gold purer by rubbing it against the sandpaper of the world. In a world obsessed with visibility, presence, virality, and traction metrics, it is often forgotten: self‑expression of the soul is the best reward. As Francis Bacon reminded us long ago: “Reading maketh a full man; conference a ready man; and writing an exact man.”

Willing the Will: From Material Assets to Essence

Willing the Will: From Material Assets to Essence

A few days ago, in our Coaching WhatsApp group, there was a conversation about writing a will. Many wise and practical suggestions were shared, mostly focused on financial assets—how to ensure they are passed on smoothly to loved ones. In a way, our will reflects what we owned while alive, even after we have stopped living.

Soon after, Thara and I were visiting my sister in Bangalore. During the course of conversation, she shared the sad fate of a distant relative. On the eve of his housewarming, he met with a freak bike accident and has since remained in a coma, tube-fed in a hospital bed. It was heartbreaking to hear.

Seventeen years ago, my father passed away without writing a will. He was a generous man and did not have much to leave behind. The small house he built, he ensured was registered in my mother’s name, along with his family pension. That was his quiet foresight. Last year, my Zen master shared the draft of his will with me, and I was touched to see my name in it.

When I moved to the Zendo last year, I had already given away what little I had of financial worth. Today, I live on a modest four-digit pension. For a while, I felt there was nothing left worth writing a will for. But the question lingered: other than money, what do I truly own that is worthy? This was on my mind as I took the night bus back from Bangalore to the Zendo.

What is rightfully, legally, and morally mine—and more importantly, what am I, legally and spiritually? These are deep questions. In the natural world, animals do exhibit an instinct of “myness”—my prey, my food, my territory. Yet once their life is done, there are no personal claims. They cannot leave behind a will. Nature has no concern for their mortal remains, their cave, or the trees they nested in.

Much later, Marx observed that many human problems began when we started dividing the Earth and creating ownership: of land, water, air, trees, food. In The Communist Manifesto, he wrote:

“The theory of Communism may be summed up in one sentence: Abolish all private property.”

His point was not about denying people shelter or livelihood, but about how the very act of carving up the Earth into mine and yours created alienation and conflict. Even today, our ownership is often nominal. If gold, diamonds, or petroleum are found beneath the land we “own,” the government claims it.

If this is true of material assets, what about the products of the mind? Many of us claim ownership of those too, and make them part of our will. Yet there are exceptions. U. G. Krishnamurti, for instance, refused to claim ownership of his words. On the front page of his books, he wrote:

“You are free to reproduce, distribute, interpret, misinterpret, distort, garble, do what you like, even claim authorship without my consent or the permission of anybody.”

When I added a similar note to my first published book, The Fallen Flower, Fragrant Grass, the publisher told me they would not allow it. I may have to go to a printer directly and get it printed. In contrast, Jiddu Krishnamurti fought a long, drawn-out court battle with Rajagopal over the rights to his teachings and writings.

And then there are inventions like the three-point seat belt, the internet, and the polio vaccine—gifts to humanity, not possessions to be hoarded.

 

This reminds me also of Kahlil Gibran. In The Prophet, he wrote of eating fruit with reverence:

“When you crush an apple with your teeth, say to it in your heart, Your seeds shall live in my body, And the buds of your tomorrow shall blossom in my heart.”

And echoing this spirit, an old proverb says: “We enjoy the shade of trees we did not plant; we eat the fruit of trees we did not sow.” Both remind us that what we inherit and what we pass on are rarely ours alone.

Hearing about my distant relative’s tragedy—much like Michael Schumacher’s accident—brought another thought to the surface. I do not want a medically prolonged life. For two reasons: first, because the most important hope is for a dignified death. And second, because I once read that 95% of one’s lifetime medical expenditure is spent in the last four or five days of life. That struck me as both sobering and unnecessary.

This reflection deepened as I skimmed Paul Kalanithi’s When Breath Becomes Air.

He writes:

“At those critical junctures, the question is not simply whether to live or die but what kind of life is worth living… Because the brain mediates our experience of the world, any neurosurgical problem forces a patient and family… to answer this question: What makes life meaningful enough to go on living?”

That question lingers with me.

And here, again, Gibran’s words return with force (On Giving, The Prophet):

“You give but little when you give of your possessions.

It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.

For what are your possessions but things you keep and guard for fear you may need them tomorrow?

And tomorrow, what shall tomorrow bring to the over prudent dog burying bones in the trackless sand as he follows the pilgrims to the holy city?

And what is fear of need but need itself? Is not dread of thirst when your well is full, the thirst that is unquenchable?

There are those who give little of the much which they have—and they give it for recognition and their hidden desire makes their gifts unwholesome.

And there are those who have little and give it all. These are the believers in life and the bounty of life, and their coffer is never empty.

There are those who give with joy, and that joy is their reward. And there are those who give with pain, and that pain is their baptism.

And there are those who give and know not pain in giving, nor do they seek joy, nor give with mindfulness of virtue;

They give as in yonder valley the myrtle breathes its fragrance into space.

Through the hands of such as these God speaks, and from behind their eyes He smiles upon the earth.

It is well to give when asked, but it is better to give unasked, through understanding; And to the open-handed the search for one who shall receive is joy greater than giving.

And is there aught you would withhold?

All you have shall some day be given; Therefore give now, that the season of giving may be yours and not your inheritors’. You often say, ‘I would give, but only to the deserving.’

The trees in your orchard say not so, nor the flocks in your pasture. They give that they may live, for to withhold is to perish. Surely he who is worthy to receive his days and his nights, is worthy of all else from you.

And he who has deserved to drink from the ocean of life deserves to fill his cup from your little stream. And what desert greater shall there be, than that which lies in the courage and the confidence, nay the charity, of receiving?

And who are you that men should rend their bosom and unveil their pride, that you may see their worth naked and their pride unabashed?

See first that you yourself deserve to be a giver, and an instrument of giving.

For in truth it is life that gives unto life—while you, who deem yourself a giver, are but a witness.

And you receivers—and you are all receivers—assume no weight of gratitude, lest you lay a yoke upon yourself and upon him who gives.

Rather rise together with the giver on his gifts as on wings; For to be over mindful of your debt, is to doubt his generosity who has the freehearted earth for mother, and God for father.”

Perhaps, then, the real will we leave behind is not a document of assets, but a testament of choices—how we wish to live, how we wish to die, and what we wish to pass on that cannot be measured in currency.

For me, it is the dignity of a simple life, the freedom of a simple death, and the hope that my words, my friendships, and my small acts of belonging may outlive me.

My late father was an ordinary man who lived an ordinary life of extraordinariness. Even after seventeen years, when my siblings and I speak of him, and when those who once knew him remember him, I realise this truth: in the end, a will is not measured in possessions, but in the meaning we leave behind. 

Truly, it is not our assets that matter, but the essence we bequeath.

The Crane That Could Not Lift and the Compassion Shift

The Crane That Could Not Lift and the Compassion Shift

Yesterday night, was on my way to Bangalore from Kanzeon Zendo, Perumalmalai. The KSRTC Volvo semi sleeper  bus stopped in the middle of nowhere. At first I thought , it was a momentary halt. But then as it lingered on  A, most of the passengers stepped down from the bus to look for the cause of block on the ghat road. I continued to read Mother Mary comes to me. Then Driver Krishnappa , came back and asked me to go and see. There was a mini truck off the road, almost landed perfectly on all four.

 Krishnappa, the ace KSRTC driver is one of my new found friends from my sojourn to  Perumalmalai over the last three years.  For the first two years, I had made a monthly trip of. Blr- Kodai- Blr  and since last December. It is. Kodai-Blr- Kodai.  Mostly on Sunday to Friday  or Friday to Sunday.  And most of these days, drivers were  Krishnappa, Girisha and  Sunmadhappa ….  I used to get down at Perumalmalai some 13 km away from Kodaikanal , the bus stand.  Though my initial interactions with them was just friendly courteous smiles and a thank you as I stepped off from the bus.  It was Krishnappa who broke the ice.  Once while having early morning coffee at that way side coffee shop during a pitstop, he asked me what I am doing at that place , making so may visits.  And when I shared about Zendo and Zen, he  told me with a hearty laugh, that they thought I am a drug carrier from Blr.  Especially since I used to travel lightly and used to get down before the check post and town limits.

From then onwards, those coffee became on the house for me. If Krishnappa was the driver,  he used to announce to them,  Nammavaru to the coffee “barrista”  which roughly translates. “ He is one of us”.

He was a very interesting character. One who took immense pride in being one of the really early Volvo bus drivers in Karnataka.  He told me that. It was Karnataka RTC which bought Volvo buses first in India and they  had put their best drivers for that fleet.  And I have heard that story from him quite a number of times.

So when a Pilot of an aero plane, a Captain of a ship and driver of your bus, tell you something, you think twice, or at times thrice before saying a  reason to say know. So I got down from the bus and made my way to that  accident spot. Just  10 – 20 meters ahead. 

 I was told, the driver had passed away on the spot. May be yesterday afternoon. Truck went down and the driver’s soul up. Since the truck load was fruits, the owner had send a crane to lift the truck. Looking at the crane, Krishnappa told me that , that crane wont be able to life the truck with the fruit load. And after more than 1 1/2 hour of effort , those workers to agreed and gave up. On our walk back to bus, Krishnappa told me that many a times, driver die due to heart attacks. ANd accoding to him, that is a better way than live on with pain and severe injiruies. ! Neither i agreed nor disagreed with him. Our journey to Bangalore continued. MAy be that scene was playing up in my mind. When i landed in Bangalore home , very early morning, there in Linkedin popped up a advt brochure on Compassion Shift. An org i had worked ( ?) earlier is part of that program. and i had to type in the below comment. During the last part of my tenure over there, i was in deep depression. My otherwise friendly Tinnitus had turned into a monster in my brain and ate away, my sleep, my wakefulness, peace of mind, joy and hunger and tears. Dont know which crane was able to pull me out of that abyss. But i too landed on all four in Zendo on the Way. On reaching home, went with Thara for our breakfast at The Rameshwaram Cafe… Thara was talking about their new joint named Thirtha in Cunnigham road. May be there was too much butter on that crispy rava dosa. I slept again and woke up for lunch.. 🙂 Pls find below my comment without further comments. Shift / transformation is not a one time act . One constantly and consciously need to be aware and keep working on it. Often reflecting on the past does help. reflecting on the past is crucial. This is wise reflection (yoniso manasikara). We look back not with guilt or pride, but as a scientist studies data: · “In that moment of irritation, where was my compassion?” · “When I acted kindly, what was the true motive? Was it free from the ‘passion’ for gratitude or recognition?” · “How did that word or mindless act of mine land on the other person?” This reflection isn’t dwelling; it’s learning to do better next time. It’s how we polish the lens of our understanding and make the “compassion shift” more accessible, more instantaneous, in the next moment of interaction. And what is a butcher’s compassion . Is it towards the animal or the knife as in Daoist parable of Cook Ding . And who are we in the parable! The animal, knife or Cook Ding ??? From someone who was on the receiving end of compassion…😀

On second thoughts,  I feel  compassion is not about choosing between the animal, the knife, or Cook Ding. it is about seeing that in each moment, we are all three—cutting, being cut, and learning to move with the grain of life. And in that realisation , the shift happens quietly without needing an external prompt, like a bus resuming its journey after a long halt on the ghat road. In the end, the truck stayed where it was, the crane gave up, and the bus rolled on. Life too moves like that—sometimes stuck, sometimes lifted, sometimes simply continuing. What matters is whether compassion travels with us. I don’t know which crane lifted me from my own abyss, or which hand steadied me when I landed on all four.

But I know this: each time I pause to reflect, compassion becomes a little more available, a little more natural. And that, perhaps, is the real shift.

Also the true crane is not outside us at all, but that  quiet strength, boot strap program written in us by that great intelligence  lifts us, again and again, into the next step of the Way.

Adventures of a Bystander in the Age of AI — Crossing the Chasm Within

Adventures of a Bystander in the Age of AI — Crossing the Chasm Within

Everyone is talking about AI taking away jobs. Just a few days back, a Coaching colleague, whose practice focus in Career shifts  wrote a wonderful passage that  the bigger issue may not be unemployment—it is meaninglessness. “Work has never been just about money. It has been about identity. It provides structure. It is the story our parents proudly share when someone asks about us. Take that away, and who are we? The fear of meaninglessness is real. For many, work has been the anchor of identity, the rhythm of daily life, and the narrative thread of belonging. AI disruption threatens to unsettle that anchor. It is not just about automation or efficiency; it is about the erosion of the stories we tell ourselves and others about who we are.”

And yet, this is not inevitable. History shows a recurring pattern: when technology reshapes work—whether in the industrial revolution or the digital revolution—humans eventually re-anchor meaning in new roles, crafts, and communities. The challenge is not the disappearance of meaning, but the transition, the liminal space where old identities dissolve before new ones take shape. I know this from experience. For over fifteen years, I worked as a Change and Transformation consultant. Then one day, I stopped. Not because the work was meaningless, but because I no longer needed that identity to define me. I discovered that life continues, and meaning can be found in other places—relationships, writing, contemplative practice, service. The pay check was never the whole story.

Peter Drucker was introduced to me by none other than Subroto Bagchi, who wrote quote often about him.  Subroto considered   Drucker as the father of modern management. By the way, while many other management gurus are known by the great institutions they are affiliated with, Drucker chose a low key University and eventually that institution got its identity from  Drucker’s contribution to the Management science.

Drucker began his career in an apprenticeship at a Hamburg trading company. By his own account, he “learned nothing” about the business itself—the managers barely paid attention to the trainees. Yet he later said it was not a wasted year. He read voraciously, discovered Kierkegaard, and began shaping the philosophical foundations that would define his life’s work. Apprenticeship, he showed, is not only about acquiring skills, but about forming identity through exposure, discipline, and reflection. In times of disruption, perhaps we are all apprentices again—learning to re-anchor meaning in unexpected places.

Drucker’s memoir, a classic must read,  Adventures of a Bystander, makes this even clearer. He portrays himself not as a man defined by his jobs, but as an observer, a learner, a bystander to history. His identity was never confined to the roles he held—consultant, professor, writer—but was rooted in curiosity, reflection, and the people and ideas he encountered. His life shows that one can live fully, contribute deeply, and yet not be imprisoned by professional labels.

He also recounted a disturbing episode from his time in a London investment bank in the 1930s. What struck him was not the technical work of finance, but the culture of the firm—how traditions, rituals, and unspoken rules shaped identity and power. Among these, Drucker noted a shocking practice: the secretary of the managing partner was considered part of the “succession package.” Whoever was to become the next managing partner was expected to assume not only the professional responsibilities of the role but also inherit the secretary in a personal capacity. Drucker was appalled by this, and he shared it as an example of how institutions can normalize practices that, when seen from the outside, are clearly unethical and dehumanizing. The point of the story is not the scandal itself, but the lesson Drucker drew: organizations often bind identity to roles in ways that are arbitrary, unhealthy, or even absurd. What was considered “normal” in that investment bank was, in fact, a distortion of both work and human dignity. Drucker’s lifelong insistence that management is a moral practice—not just a technical one—was shaped by witnessing such episodes early in his career.

Hannah Arendt, some 70 years ago, predicted the peril of modern life—long before the so‑called knowledge economy came into existence—that chasing productivity would extinguish meaning. In her seminal groundbreaking work, The Human Condition, she distinguished between labour, the endless cycle of necessity tied to survival; work, the creation of durable things that give the world stability; and action, the highest form of freedom, where we reveal ourselves to others and shape history. Her concern was that modernity collapses these distinctions, reducing all activity to the logic of labour and output. In such a world, thought is measured by its utility, people are valued by their efficiency, and even leisure is instrumentalized as recovery for further work. This marks the triumph of the animal laborans—the human as labouring animal, hollowing out meaning and eroding the very spaces where freedom, creativity, and genuine human action can arise.

One of the most influential books on technological change, Crossing the Chasm, was written not by an engineer but by an English Literature professor, Geoffrey Moore. That paradox is telling: the deepest insights about change often come from outside the expected domain. They remind us that identity is larger than occupation, and that wisdom often comes from the margins. So the deeper question is not “What will AI take away?” but “Who am I when the titles and roles fall away?” One of the most powerful coaching questions I have ever faced was exactly this: define yourself beyond titles, beyond roles. Interestingly, that question did not come from a certified coach, but it has stayed with me as one of the most transformative. It stripped away the masks and left me face-to-face with something more essential.

I am also reminded of a story shared by Wipro veteran Dr. Sridhar Mitta. In the early days, Wipro manufactured PCs and even built a homegrown productivity suite. When these systems were installed in offices, the Munims of Kolkata—masters of the traditional Marwari accounting system, Parta—insisted on cross-checking the computer’s output with their own methods. They did not trust the machine. Change takes time. But eventually, they adapted. And so did the organizations around them. This story is a parable: humans resist, test, and cross-check—but eventually, we learn to swim in new waters.

Fish know how to swim. Squirrels know how to climb trees. And birds know how to fly. They did not need finishing schools or certified coaches. The only inherent talent humans are born with is the ability to adapt—and to work with strangers. Unlike other animals, we are wired for collaboration and reinvention. That is our evolutionary gift. AI may unsettle our roles, but it cannot erase this gift. If anything, it calls us to exercise it more consciously.

But there is another way to meet disruption—not by clinging to new roles, but by letting go  the shackles of identity itself. After moving out of the 9–5 prison of corporate walls, paychecks, and social media emojis, I immersed myself in the ordinary life of a Zen student, guided by an ordinary Zen teacher, in an ordinary Zendo. And in that ordinariness, something extraordinary revealed itself. I began to notice that I was no longer the protagonist of my life, endlessly striving to perform and prove. More often, I was simply a witness. Watching thoughts rise and fall. Watching the Zendo waterfall come alive and then dry itself out. Learning to be calm under stress from Zendog Bhim . Watching myself breathe. When one shifts from being the protagonist—the doer, the achiever—to being the witness—the observer—a spaciousness opens that can hold all of life’s experiences without being defined by them. In this shift from doing to witnessing, my equanimity, inner peace, tranquillity, and joy have not just grown—they have multiplied. And one thing I reaslised is in that state of mind, Arendt’s definition of  Labour becomes an action from the true mind. Infact Zen, through its ordinary life, ordinary mind  just teaches this.  Everything is selfless action. Whether it is archery, ikkenaba, cleaning dishes or zendo, walking dog, reading philosophy or doing zazen.

So in my humble view, the real answer to the problem of meaninglessness is not to seek new identities, new labels, or new masks. That is only rearranging the furniture in the same prison cell. The deeper work is to strip away those onion skins of identity—consultant, professional, achiever, even seeker—until what remains is the emptiness at the core. And in that emptiness, there is no void. There is space. Spaciousness that holds everything: joy and sorrow, gain and loss, sound and silence. As the Heart Sutra reminds us: form is emptiness, emptiness is form. To realize this is to be free—not from work or responsibility, but from the compulsion to define ourselves by them.

AI may strip away the masks we have worn at the market place for decades. But perhaps this is not a loss—it is an invitation. An invitation to rediscover meaning in relationships, creativity, service, and contemplative practice. An invitation to remember that identity is not a title on a business card, but the living presence we bring to each moment. Identity can be adaptive, distorted, or transcended—but never reduced to a job title. The Munims of Kolkata, Drucker the bystander, Arendt the philosopher, Moore the literature professor, the London banker’s secretary, and the Zen student in the ordinary Zendo all point to the same truth: we are more than our roles. And when the roles fall away, what remains is the freedom to simply be. What remains for you, when the roles fall away?

It feels fitting to conclude with a final layer of witness-consciousness. This essay itself is a product of the very transition it describes. The thoughts, experiences, and conclusions are my own, but the process of articulating them was a collaboration with an AI language model. It served as a digital apprentice, helping to structure arguments and find connections between Drucker, Arendt, and Zen. In this collaboration, I experienced the very point I hoped to make: the tool did not define the meaning; it aided in its expression. The witness—the essential self—remained, simply using a new kind of brush to paint its truth.

The River Has No Steps in the Pathless Land: Why Life Refuses Simple Formulas

The River Has No Steps in the Pathless Land: Why Life Refuses Simple Formulas

In today’s world, we are surrounded and overwhelmed, by books, talks, programs  and Coaches that promise success, peace, joy and even bliss  in a fixed number of steps. They come neatly packaged: seven habits, ten rules, twelve principles or three steps ( for those who are in real hurry). Each one claims to be the map that will take us from confusion to clarity, from struggle to success, from boredom to bliss. But life, if we are honest, does not work that way. Life does not have a formula.

What nourishes one person may poison another. What feels like ambrosia in one season may turn bitter in the next. Ayurveda has always reminded us that the same herb can heal or harm depending on who takes it, when, and in what measure. Zen and Vedanta too point us away from rigid prescriptions and toward direct experience. Even the Buddha, when asked for a universal formula, refused to give one. Instead, he offered skilful means (Upaya)—different approaches for different people, depending on their temperament and situation. Krishnamurti put it most starkly when he said, “Truth is a pathless land.” No one can walk it for us. No teacher, no guru, no book no Coach—however wise or intelligent—can hand us a ready-made road. At best, they can point in a direction, but the walking is ours alone. Life is not a pre-packaged kit with instructions; it is more like a do-it-yourself experiment, where each of us must discover what works in the laboratory of our own existence.

Douglas Adams, with his characteristic humour, reminded us that each of us is connected by an unbroken thread of parentage stretching back to the first couple on earth. Each life is unique, yet woven into a shared fabric. And yet, somewhere along the way, especially after the Industrial Revolution, we began to forget this uniqueness. We started forcing ourselves into fixed numbers and categories—shoe sizes, shirt sizes, standardized moulds—because that made it easier to produce things in large quantities, even if much of it was unnecessary. In the process, we began to treat human beings as if they too could be standardized, as if individuality could be flattened into a number. This addiction to numbers carried into the self-help world. Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits became a cultural landmark—as if six habits would not suffice to make us effective, and eight or nine would be too many. The number itself became a brand, a formula, a promise of certainty. And though Covey himself later tried to break the jinx with The 8th Habit, many of us remained stuck in our addiction to the fixed number of steps. The comfort of a tidy sequence seemed more appealing than the messiness of real life.

Likewise, after Zen and the Art of Archery and Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, everything began to be served in a “Zen flavour”—including coaching. But anyone who has actually practiced Zen knows there is no book called The Zen and the Art of Doing Zen. There is no fixed manual for the way a cloud moves, or a raindrop falls, or the wind blows, or how a leaf rustles. Zen is not a flavouring to be sprinkled on top of life—it is life itself, ungraspable, unrepeatable, alive. And here lies another irony. A line often attributed to Einstein—though never actually his—warned that modern education was like asking a fish to climb a tree. The allegory was meant to show the absurdity of judging every child by the same standard, of forcing uniqueness into a single mould. Yet in our times, we celebrate corporate metaphors like Louis Gerstner’s Who Says Elephants Can’t Dance? as if teaching elephants to dance were a greater feat of intelligence than recognizing that elephants were never meant to climb trees in the first place. We admire the cleverness of making the giant move, but overlook the deeper wisdom of honouring each being’s nature.

The Buddha himself knew this. After his awakening under the Bodhi tree, he did not rush to teach. The early texts say he hesitated. What he had realized was “deep, subtle, hard to see, going against the stream.” He wondered whether anyone, caught in desire and distraction, could truly understand it. In the Theravada tradition, it is said that the god Brahma Sahampati appeared and urged him to share the Dharma, reminding him that there were “beings with little dust in their eyes” who would benefit. Whether or not we take this literally, it reflects something essential: the Buddha paused, not out of reluctance, but out of compassion and realism. He knew that awakening could not be handed over like a formula. When he did begin to teach, starting with his five former companions at Sarnath, he did not deliver a single rigid doctrine. Instead, he varied his approach depending on the listener. To some he spoke of generosity and ethics, to others of meditation, to others of emptiness or compassion. His teaching was alive, responsive, tailored to the uniqueness of each person and each circumstance. Over time, this adaptability gave rise to different emphases and schools. Theravada, the “Teaching of the Elders,” preserved the earliest discourses in the Pali Canon and emphasized renunciation, monastic discipline, and the path of the arhat — the one who seeks personal liberation. It became highly standardized, almost carved in stone, with a strong focus on preserving the Buddha’s words as faithfully as possible. Mahayana, the “Great Vehicle,” expanded the vision. It emphasized the bodhisattva path — awakening not just for oneself but for all beings — and opened the door to a vast range of scriptures, practices, and philosophical explorations. It was less rigid, more experimental, more willing to adapt to culture and context. Vajrayana, the “Diamond Vehicle,” grew out of Mahayana and added esoteric, tantric methods — mantras, visualizations, rituals — as a way of accelerating awakening.

Zen, which grew within the Mahayana stream, reflects this spirit of non-standardization. It resists being carved into fixed formulas. Instead of clinging to texts or doctrines, Zen points directly to experience: the sound of the wind, the rustle of a leaf, the ordinariness of attention. Where Theravada often emphasizes preservation, Zen emphasizes immediacy. This brings us to Ikkyu, the great iconoclastic Zen master. A man once asked him to write down a maxim of the highest wisdom. Ikkyu took up his brush and wrote a single word: Attention. The man frowned. “Is that all?” Ikkyu  calmly wrote again: Attention. Attention. The man, now irritated, said, “I don’t see much depth in what you’ve written.” So Ikkyu  wrote a third time: Attention. Attention. Attention. Exasperated, the man demanded, “What does this word mean, anyway?” Ikkyu  replied gently: “Attention means attention.” The story is deceptively simple, but it cuts to the heart of Zen. Wisdom is not hidden in elaborate doctrines or clever formulas. It is in the quality of our attention — to breath, to thought, to the rustle of a leaf, to the ordinariness of life. And yet, being attentive cannot be taught by anyone.

A teacher can point, can remind, can create conditions, but the act of attention is yours alone. It is not transferable, not downloadable, not teachable in the conventional sense. This is also where coaching and teaching often stumble in the modern world. There is a rush to teach attention, to package mindfulness into modules, to turn presence into a curriculum. But the paradox is that the more we try to systematize attention, the further we drift from it. Attention is not a method; it is a quality of being. A true teacher or coach does not hand you attention. They help you notice your own inattention. They hold silence long enough for you to hear your own mind racing. They ask a question that makes you stop, pause, and look. They don’t give you attention; they help you stumble into it yourself.

There is a saying often repeated in coaching and education: “The best way to learn is to teach.” There is some truth in it. When we explain something to another, we are forced to clarify, to simplify, to test our own understanding. But the saying is incomplete. The best way to master something is to teach oneself. In the modern world, everyone is in a hurry to teach. Social media rewards the quick sharer, the one who posts insights before they have ripened. Coaching, too, can fall into this trap—becoming a performance of wisdom rather than a practice of inquiry. Everyone wants to be a guide; few are willing to remain a pilgrim. The paradox is that the most powerful teachers are those who never stop teaching themselves. They remain apprentices to life, students of their own unfolding. Their teaching is not a performance but an overflow, not a formula but a sharing of what they are still discovering.

So what, then, is the role of coaches and teachers in this pathless land? If life were formulaic, they would be unnecessary. But because life resists formulas, they are invaluable. They are not map-makers but mirror-holders. They do not hand you a ready-made path; they help you see yourself more clearly. They are companions in discernment, helping you test, taste, and notice what truly nourishes you. They bring perspective when you are caught in the moment, seeing the wider field that you cannot. They are catalysts, not carriers—they cannot walk for for you. So, perhaps the only “formula” is to abandon the search for formulas—to trade the comfort of a map for the adventure of the pathless land.

In this uncharted territory, a true guide is not a guru or coach with a map, but a fellow traveller who knows how to read the stars. They cannot hand you a compass pointing north, but they can help you notice the subtle tilt of your own soul. Their role is to remind you that you are not a problem to be solved with a seven-step solution, but a mystery to be lived. The greatest habit you can cultivate is therefore not the seventh or the eighth, but the courage to pay attention—deeply and without a formula—to what is truly alive within you. The most important question then becomes not, “Have you followed the steps?” but, “What are you noticing?”

 The pathless land of truth is walked with attention. So, as you close this page, what do you notice? The weight of the device in your hands? The rhythm of your breath? That noticing—simple, profound, and utterly your own—is where the real journey begins.

 This kind of knowing may not sound intelligent in the marketplace of commodities.

But it is … Spiritual as the rain, cloud and trees.

What could you do more of?

Nothing . Do nothing. The endless need to do something and need to fill our time and mind is the root cause of most of our problems. There are times when we got to do and there are times we got to rest in stillness. All Taichi steps start from the void of Wuji. Without doing nothing, there is no doing.

The Window and the Wall: When the World Is the Storyteller

The Window and the Wall: When the World Is the Storyteller

Have you read that story title the “The Window” ? “In that hospital story, two men share a room. One’s bed is next to the window; the other is confined to his bed away from it. Each day, the man by the window vividly describes what he sees — children playing, lovers strolling, swans gliding on a lake, the beauty of changing seasons. His words become the other patient’s lifeline, lifting his spirits and giving him something to look forward to. One day, the man by the window dies. When the surviving patient asks to be moved to the window, he discovers that the “view” is actually a blank wall. The scenes had all been imagined — a gift of hope and beauty from one human being to another.”  

Now, at Kanzeon Zendo, I write in a room without windows, where the sky itself is the roof and the mountains stand as steadfast walls. Here, there is no need to invent and imagine the view — the horizon is already an open page, and the still mind rolls on like the wheel. What was once a story of vision born in absence becomes, in this boundless chamber, vision born in presence. The same generosity of spirit flows, but now the world itself is the storyteller.

When the mind frees itself from the shackles and botheration of likes, reposts, eyeballs, and LinkedIn’s restless algorithms, it settles into stillness. In that quiet, there is no striving, no audience to please — only the open space where the pen moves of its own accord, writing what needs to be written.

And in the same moment, seeds of ideas are sown, sprouts are tended, branches are pruned, and the harvest is gathered — the entire cycle of creation unfolding in a single breath.

And that is the gist of Zen teacher Natalie Goldberg’s. “Writing to the bones, freeing the writer within. “.  

All the modern wants and greed  dictated by the social media are really shackles.  Only when one becomes aware of it, only then the writer within frees himself.   Almost all the great literary works , they wrote for themselves.

Every writer must choose where they sit: by the imagined window, in the room with a view, or beneath the sky‑roof with mountain walls. The choice is never about scenery, but about freedom. Free yourself from the shackles of metrics, and the work will grow — seed to sprout, branch to harvest — without needing permission from the world.

The window is a wall. The wall is a window. The horizon is neither. When the mind stops looking for a view, the view appears. When the pen stops trying to write, the writing is already done.

When the race ends, the path begins with the myth that is yours…

When the race ends, the path begins with the myth that is yours…

When Bill Moyers asked Joseph Campbell what someone in a midlife crisis should do if they had lost their way, Campbell’s answer was deceptively simple:

“Follow your bliss, and if you follow your bliss, doors will open where there were no doors before.”

It is a phrase that has been quoted endlessly, often mistaken for a call to chase pleasure or excitement. But Campbell was pointing toward something far deeper — the kind of joy the Sanskrit word ananda evokes, a quiet, abiding sense of rightness that arises when we are in harmony with our true nature.

This bliss is not something we manufacture; it is already here, like the sun behind clouds. Most of the time, the mind is noisy — restless commentary, anxious planning, comparisons, compulsions. In that noise, bliss is not destroyed, only hidden.

When the mind grows still, even for a moment, the clouds part and the light is revealed. Campbell himself warned that if your “bliss” is just excitement or fun, you are on the wrong track; you must come down to a deep place in yourself, a place beyond the surface ripples of mood and circumstance.

I started reading Joseph Campbell after a chance whistle‑stop visit to Giza near Cairo. The Power of Myth and The Hero with a Thousand Faces are must‑reads.

Often, you realise your bliss not when you go after it, but when life seems to have thrown you out of the race entirely. You reach a dead end. You feel like a failure on all counts, and the thought of living feels heavier than the thought of dying.

And then, something happens deep inside. Something flips. You look straight into the eyes of what you had feared most, and instead of turning back, you step into it. You immerse yourself in the very thing you once resisted.

From that moment, public applause, acceptance, bank balance, readership, mindshare, likes and emojis — none of it matters anymore. You don’t want to be a groom in every wedding and a corpse in every funeral. Being anonymous is equal to being famous.

And strangely, after that turning and churning, even those dearest to you begin to align with your life in ways you could never have orchestrated.

My better half, Thara, told me when Fr. AMA asked me to join Kanzeon Zendo as his assistant, that a calling is different from a job, a career or a profession. When you are called by life, you go with it. And I did just that.

In our time, the idea of bliss has been reinterpreted in many ways. Some see it as living in alignment with one’s deepest values, others as the contentment that comes from mindfulness and presence. Neuroscience and positive psychology frame it as a trainable state, cultivated through meditation, gratitude, and compassion.

In a world of constant stimulation, bliss can also mean mental spaciousness — the relief of being free from endless distraction. For creatives and athletes, it can resemble the flow state, where self-consciousness drops away and time feels fluid.

Across these interpretations, the thread is the same: bliss is less about acquiring something new and more about uncovering what has always been here.

Campbell often reminded us that we all live within myths, whether we recognise them or not. Some myths confine us, keeping us circling in patterns that feel safe but small. Others guide us toward the deep place where bliss resides.

To follow your bliss is to follow the myth that is truly yours — the one that opens doors you never knew were there, not because the world has changed, but because you have. And when the noise quiets, you may find that the path was here all along, waiting for you to walk it.

As the Spanish poet Antonio Machado wrote:

Caminante, son tus huellas el camino y nada más;
Caminante, no hay camino, se hace camino al andar.
Al andar se hace el camino, y al volver la vista atrás
se ve la senda que nunca se ha de volver a pisar.
Caminante, no hay camino sino estelas en la mar.

Wayfarer, your footprints are the only road, nothing else.
Wayfarer, there is no road; you make your own path as you walk.
As you walk, you make your own road, and when you look back
you see the path you will never travel again.
Wayfarer, there is no road; only a ship’s wake on the sea.

The True Price of Enoughness and the Cost of Contentment : Lessons from Mitr, Zen, and a stone basin in Kyoto

The True Price of Enoughness and the Cost of Contentment : Lessons from Mitr, Zen, and a stone basin in Kyoto

My journey into the helping space began with Mitr, Wipro’s internal counselling initiative. Mitr was the brainchild of Kayo Shroff, then General Manager at CHRD and a counsellor at Vishwas, with Ranjan Acharya, then Head of CHRD, as its enthusiastic sponsor. They called for nominations, and I joined half self‑motivated, half nudged by my then boss, SMR. He knew I had completed a month‑long NLP course with Dr. Richard McHugh and had enrolled for an MA in Psychology with IGNOU, so he suggested I apply. The application itself was unusual — I still have a copy.

One of the questions read: “Describe yourself in 5 words. No qualifications, titles, skills etc. to be included.” My answer, characteristically, spilled beyond the limit: “I am what I (am + can be + will be). What I am = committed, sincere, open‑minded and witty.” There were a few more questions, including two essay‑style prompts: one asking me to describe a time in my life when I was absolutely broken inside and was helped by another, and another asking how I, in turn, had helped someone in a similar situation. Even before I was formally trained, those questions made me pause and look inward — a reminder that the heart of helping work is not in the techniques we wield, but in the humanity we share.

I ended up in the first cohort of Mitr counsellors. Ranjan and Kayo would jokingly call us the “co‑founders” of Mitr. It was, in every sense, a selfless service. We offered our time after hours, guarded the anonymity of those who came to us with fierce loyalty, and never discussed their cases. This work existed outside our professional duties — it could never be an excuse for unmet targets. The spirit was simple: you gave your presence freely, without any expectation of reward.

Our training was led by Dr. Uttara, a week that has stayed with me all these years. It was there she suggested a book to the group, though I felt the suggestion was meant particularly for me: On Becoming a Person by Carl Rogers. I had just finished my NLP course, and those were heady days; in that world, it was easy to feel that after a single training you could stride into the world as the next Anthony Robbins. Dr. Uttara, I think, sensed that intoxication — the seductive belief that with the right technique, you could “fix” anyone. Her recommendation of Rogers was a quiet counterweight. His humanistic approach isn’t about clever reframes or rapid interventions; it’s about presence, congruence, unconditional positive regard. It’s about being with, rather than doing to.

Years later, I became a certified leadership coach. By then, I had sat on both sides of the helping relationship — as the one offering support, and as the one seeking it. During my own struggle with depression, I was referred to a counsellor. They were helpful, and they charged for their time. And that was appropriate. Counselling is a service that offers value, and value has a price. It was a sobering but vital realization: the helping professions are not immune to economic realities. Skill, ethics, and livelihood must find a way to coexist — sometimes in harmony, sometimes in tension.

For two years, I lived a dual life: a Zen student and a full‑time breadwinner for my family, alongside my better half. Then, last December, I moved into the Zendo. Before I arrived, Fr. AMA wrote me a welcome email. He called it shokku tuddedo and reminded me that the most critical relationship we must resolve is the one with money. The world, he said, will wonderfully provide for our needs, but our wants — and sometimes our greed — are a bottomless gulf. His words stayed with me. I distributed all my wealth and possessions before I left home. I stepped into the Zendo with empty hands and a lighter heart. I still work enough to provide for Manu and Rishi’s education for the next few years, but beyond that, I am largely self‑sufficient.

And yet, I was quite at sea for a while. After living for fifty‑four years in one fashion, it is not easy to be that detached. In our minds, the lines between genuine need, want, and greed are often too thin — or not there at all.

At the temple of Ryōan‑ji in Kyoto, Japan, there is a hand‑washing basin along the rear of the building, engraved with four kanji. Alone, they have no meaning, but a fifth kanji, formed by the central water basin, completes the phrase: ware tada taru shiru. When I googled, the English brochure translated it as, “I learn only to be contented.”

Fr. AMA had asked us to have this framed and placed above his dokusan room.Last June 2025, for the first time since I began working in March 1995, no salary was credited to my account — only an automated bank message came reminding me to maintain a minimum balance. Perhaps just another serendipitous moment: the right message at the right time. There is a Zen saying, “The master arrives when the student is ready.” Paraphrased, “The teaching comes when one needs it most.” — My initiation was exactly that..

Naturally, my way of being in the marketplace has shifted. I let go of fixed prices and moved to a contributory scale — pro bono, low bono, or “pay as per your ability.” It is a natural fit for a Zen student and soon‑to‑be monk. And it works, beautifully. Often, the amount people choose to give is more than I would have asked for. There is a quiet dignity in this exchange; it trusts the other person’s inherent sense of fairness and frees me from the subtle grasping that can creep into fixed‑fee work. It feels less like a transaction and more like a shared act of respect.

This tension between making a living and staying true to one’s calling is an ancient one. History is filled with those without inheritance who navigated the same crossroads. Socrates taught without payment, relying on the support of friends. Buddhist monks lived on alms, yet debated in lean times whether they could farm or teach for a fee. Artists without patrons chose between poverty and adapting to the market. Galileo balanced his research with paid court appointments. Jane Addams built her social reform on donations from sources she sometimes questioned. The question has always been the same: how does one remain true to purpose within the economic systems available? The answer often lies in adaptation — relying on patronage, creating hybrid models, or embracing radical simplicity to reduce dependence on the market.

In Zen, there is a classic teaching illustrated in the Ten Ox‑Herding Pictures. It traces the stages of a seeker’s journey: searching for the ox, glimpsing its footprints, catching it, taming it, riding it home, then forgetting the ox and the self, returning to the source. The final picture, the tenth, is “Entering the Marketplace with Helping Hands.” The awakened one doesn’t remain in solitude on the mountaintop. They walk back into the town — selling wine, buying vegetables, laughing with the crowd — but their presence is different. They serve without clinging, they earn their keep without exploitation, they meet people exactly where they are. This is why there is nothing inherently wrong with being in the marketplace and offering a service. The question is not whether you charge, but how you show up: with fairness, justice, and integrity. In that spirit, livelihood and service are not opposites; they are two hands of the same body.

Looking back, my own journey has moved through its own stages: the initial intoxication of technique, the grounding of professional coaching, a clear‑eyed view of the helping ecosystem, the deepening of Zen practice, and now the freedom of a livelihood rooted in trust. Seen through the Ox‑Herding lens, these stages are not linear but a spiral. Each time I return to the marketplace, I do so with a little more humility, a little more clarity, and a little less need to be the hero.

In the end, perhaps the most enduring lesson is this: helping is not about saving the world. It is about meeting one person, in one moment, with presence and humility — and letting that be enough.

And sometimes, the person you meet in need of help is yourself. The one you’re called to serve is the one in the mirror. That work is beyond price — pro bono publico becomes pro bono self. And if we can make a fair living while doing so — like the avocado tree in the Zendo garden, quietly offering its fruit, the birds , the monkeys and that giant Malabar squirrel that visit without asking, or even the Bhim Zendog basking in the sun without bothering them— then we are simply walking the path of the tenth picture: in the marketplace, with helping hands.

Half‑Way Up the Mountain: Heights, Depths, and the Twilight Way

Half‑Way Up the Mountain: Heights, Depths, and the Twilight Way

 

John Moriarty  wrote in Dreamtime :

“It is like setting up a ladder against a rock wall by a lake. The lake mirrors your ascent as a descent. And so, thinking that I was ready for the Heights when I wasn’t simultaneously ready for the depths, that was my catastrophe, that was the avalanche I set off, looking ever upwards, on the Mount of Perfection. It carried me down into a Deep below all depths.”

And C.G. Jung, put that in better psychological perspective :

“Nobody can fall so low unless he has a great depth. If such a thing can happen to a man, it challenges his best and highest on the other side; that is to say, this depth corresponds to a potential height, and the blackest darkness to a hidden light.”

Two voices, two views— yet they meet in the same archetypal truth: the vertical axis of human experience is not one‑way. Every genuine ascent carries its shadow‑descent, and every plunge into darkness contains the seed of a corresponding light.

Mariana Kaplan, in her Halfway Up the Mountain  wrote of false claims to attainment. But the phrase reaches further than the problem of fake gurus and faker anti gurus and everyone else in between— it speaks to all of us. We are always, in some sense, halfway up the mountain. The summit is not a fixed point of eternal bliss, as some traditions promise. As we climb, the mountain itself rises.

The Greek philosopher Zeno hinted at this in his paradox: each time we move toward our goal, we can only cover half the remaining distance. Theoretically, we never arrive. The closer we get, the more the horizon recedes.

Buddhist teaching offers a similar lens: everything in this universe — you, me, the tree outside, the big rock near the Kanzeon Zendo waterfall, the distant mountain, the drifting clouds — is a process, not a finished product. There is no final arrival. The moment of arrival is already a moment of departure. In truth, we are always at the twilight of arriving and leaving, like the early morning and evening when sun and moon share the same sky.

And here, the metaphor meets the science: twilight is not when the Sun “shines most.” In fact, the Sun is below the horizon, its light reaching us only indirectly, scattered through the upper atmosphere. It is a softer, more diffused light — the “blue hour” photographers love — neither the full blaze of midday nor the darkness of night. This is why twilight is such a fitting image for the spiritual path: it is a time of transition, of partial illumination, of seeing enough to walk on, but never so much that all shadows vanish.

Many mistake spiritual progress for a straight, one‑way road. We imagine it as a steady climb, step after step, always forward. But the lived truth is far less linear. Sometimes it is one step forward, two steps back. Sometimes two steps forward, one step back. The rhythm is irregular, the pace unpredictable.

When we trudge toward the light, we do not leave the darkness behind; we carry it with us. The shadow is not an obstacle we “overcome” once and for all — it is a companion, a counterweight, a reminder. Light and shadow are not separate territories but a continuous spectrum, each shading into the other.

The movement is often like a pendulum swinging toward the light. But unlike a physical pendulum, the swing is not symmetric. The arc toward illumination may be long and slow, the return into shadow sudden and steep — or the reverse. The asymmetry is part of the work.

Dr. Kaustav Roy taught us phenomenology at APU, and one of the books he insisted we must read was R.D. Laing’s The Politics of Experience. That book held a distilled essence of human nature — a wisdom phrase to cherish in almost every paragraph. But one quote that stayed with me is:

“A good man is aware of what is not good in him, while a bad man is not.”

Awareness of the shadow is not a flaw in the journey; it is the journey. To see what is not yet whole in us is already to stand in the light. To deny it is to remain in darkness, even if our words and gestures point upward.

Moriarty’s mirrored ladder and Jung’s law of correspondence remind us that readiness for the heights is inseparable from readiness for the depths. To prepare for one without the other is to court collapse. The avalanche Moriarty speaks of is not a moral failure; it is the psyche’s way of restoring symmetry.

And so, halfway up the mountain is not a place of shame — it is the only place there is. The climb is endless, the summit ever‑rising, the path a dance between ascent and descent, light and shadow, arrival and departure. The measure of progress is not how far we have climbed, but how honestly we can stand in both light and darkness, in both coming and going, without losing our balance.

Perhaps this is why the old traditions speak of Great Doubt alongside Great Faith. The lake and the ladder, the light and the darkness, the ascent and the descent, the dawn and the dusk — they are not two journeys, but one.

In the end, the Way is not about reaching the top, nor about avoiding the fall. It is about walking with the mountain as it rises beneath our feet, with the lake reflecting both our ascent and our descent, with the twilight sky holding both sun and moon. Arrival and departure are the same step.

And in that step, the journey is complete — even as it begins again.

 

 

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